October 24, 2007

I CANCEL THE WORD 'FRENEMY'!!!!! Hisssssssss.

[Pidgin English Write-up, no translation, ma bad...]

OK, OFFICIALLY, I CANCEL THE WORD FRENEMY FROM MY VOCABULARY!!! THERE IS NOTHING LIKE FREMENY O JARE!!!
  • PERSON NA EITHER YA FRIEND OR YA ENEMY!!!
  • OR THE PERSON USED TO BE YOUR FRIEND AND DEVIL ENTER AM TO USE AM TORMENT YOU AND HIN SELF NO KNOW! SO, HIN GO BE JUST ENEMY AT THAT POINT KWA!
  • OR PERSON FIT JUST BE DEVIL PERMANENT SECRETARY AND NO GET REMEDY!! HIN OWN WORK FOR THIS EARTH NA JUST TO TORMENT PEOPLE!! SO, HIN NA ENEMY! Gbam!
  • OR PERSON BE YA FRIEND AND UNA JUST FALL OUT AND UNA GO STILL FIT RECONCILE LATER, AFTERALL NO TWO TRUE FRIENDS REMAIN ENEMY FOR LIFE. AND SOMETIME CONFLICT IS NECESSARY!
  • OR PERSON JUST BE YA FRIEND, HIN FIT HATE YOU, HIN FIT ENVY YOU, BUT IN A HEALTHY WAY COS HIN GO DEY ASPIRE TO BE LIKE YOU AND NO GO DO YOU NO HARM OR MEAN YOU ANY HARM!
  • OR......HMMMM.....SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST THE DEVIL HIMSELF/HERSELF!!! :

So dia fore, nothing like FRENEMY for ma vocab anymore!

Friendship sef get expiry date! Shuo! When E end, E suppose just end with everyone going their seperate ways PEACEFULLY (I hope and pray!!!) And NOT scheming to hurt people wey no do ya nathing!!!

I was 'almost', I mean, just a tiny bit annoyed that a clown that developed teeth overnight to bite me postponed his own shame lying to postpone his shame! But, I wait.... I patiently wait.........yes O! I wait! Because my father in heaven will exonerate and vindicate me come next january!!! I wish the whole ish closed out today, but, music wey person play, na hin, him go dance!I be yanga wey be the sleep, trouble come wake me up, and I still beg trouble to leave me alone O! Trouble begin bite, pinch and punch me, I still dey look trouble like mumu, and trouble still refuse to stop to wahala me! OK, now, Chineke wey dey for Eligwe naw don scatter all trouble plans around me, and trouble begin run! Hin shadow don dey chase am!!!

I truly and honestly feel sorry for trouble! because I don talk am say some people no dey know wetin dem dey do sometimes, when devil begin use them to attack God childrens! Like today one other person wey been suppose be friend wey been turn to devil overnight curse me eh, curse me eh! threaten me O, and hala me O! Na hin turn around to apologize say hin dey sorry, hin be dey "under so much pressure then". OK, I forgive am, but tell am to just lerrus keep it on the main road greetings! Make hin no dey call me again......hin say I dey still vex,! I tell am say if I dey vex, I for no dey even pick hin call.....Say I understand, afterall, I be God pickin!

I been don tell God to give me a FREE PASS for just one day to deal with certain people drastically and in the earthly way! YES!!! TO SHOW THEM PEPPER!!! I GO PRAY ONE WEEK AFTER AND FAST TOO FOR ATONEMENT! Haba!!! And God for whisper to my ears say Jesus no even utter one word when hin people dey kill am! Hin no even vex with Judas, hin no vent for Peter, and hin no blind or throw thunder on the soldiers wey dey beat am and all, hin just go the slaughter like a lamb! Ok, God come ask me , WHAT DID JESUS DO (WDJD), I come tell God say, I no be Jesus naw! Hin come remind me say Jesus been don leave hin peace for me on earth here.... and ability to forgive! I don ask this question before, and E dey bite me baaad now!!

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU HAVE EVIDENCE THAT SOMEONE THAT HAS BEEN TRYING TO MESS YOU UP CAN GO TO JAIL FOR SOMETHING THEY DID TO YOU!!! AND SOMETHING THEY ALSO DID BEFORE?!!! WOULD YOU GLADLY HAND THEM OVER TO THE POLICE? KNOWING THEY CAN GO TO JAIL FOR IT!!? I really got to know! At what point do you NOT just let things be?

When Snakes turn to Teddy Bears, what do you do?

Someone on a web forum I belong to asked me about my bobo (boyfriend in Nigerian pidgin English Slang).......hmmmm.....

Quote:
Originally Posted by Ms. S....

I love the idea of a diary though I no get liver to put my diary online but I don't mind reading sha. LOL. I keep journals sometimes and it
helps get through difficult times. So write. We will read and support. So, gist me more about the bobo..
MY RESPONSE:
Bobo? I am boboless ....Nah dearie.............there are 3 portions of my life that are NOT for public consumption anymore! My love life, my family life, and my business dealings!

Others I shall gerrican mouth about! This happened a couple of months ago.....a strange woman I have never seen before walked up to me after church and told me simply this: "Until you say 'I do', keep quiet"! That was just after my break-up with my ex-fiance. If na U nko? U go still talk? Nah! Enemies abound my dear! I used to be so naive to think that all those diabolical things they depict in Nollywood movies end in naija and dont exist here, I now know better!

A man that says he has 'spiritual powers' walked into my store and said he would "help me from what my enemies are planning".....and I told him God has got ma back! He didnt like my response. I thanked him and of course, INTENSIFIED MY PRAYER LIFE!! If there is anyone that can look beyond all the NR Online ish that truly like me, PLEASE put me in your prayers. I got strong prayer warriors around me though, but there is no OVERdose in praying!

Only crime I committed to some people was in taking a step of faith even when I had nothing! Even when all looked bleak and dry and hopeless around me to create EC! I bought my first sewing machine with the last change in my hand!! I bought it on faith! When I was just a nobody, I had lots of friends! (who were mostly "advisers" telling me how to live my life and need I say that most of their advice led me into some problems I am still dealing with today!! Cos I tot they knew better!!)

I HAVE FOUND OUT THAT WE ARE MORE VULNERABLE WHEN WE ARE OVERWHELMED WITH PROBLEMS! And tend less to pray to God and 9 out of 10 times, would listent to a 'friend's' advice at that point!!! -big mistake!! When I was a nobody and struggling with my job and my IT/Ebay business and complaining and whining etc, they all loved me because they believed and saw they were better than me - [then!] Now, I am cautious about most of them that showed me the snake part of them before returning back to the teddy bears I see now!! Some others have started mellowing down and even bragging about me as their friend etc, or rather bragging about EC- the designer being their friend...., I forgave them and life goes on, but, there is still that little tiny cautious thing in me....telling me that anyone that hurt me before can still hurt me again if I allow them. But honestly, forgiving is easier than haboring anger as it releases you and u keep being blessed and being a blessing.
Just a tot, ...........not a sermon!

I AM WORTH THE WAIT!

I am proud to belong to this group! I AM WORTH THE WAIT! Group was founded by Dr Lindsay Marsh. Pictured left.

They are on CNN this week. God is doing awesome things!.
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The organizers of "I Am Worth the Wait"

We hear about sex all the time -- sex scandals, sex tapes, sexual marketing. The young organizers of I Am Worth the Wait don't want to hear about it anymore. And they certainly don't want to hear how cool it is.This group is trying to make its own definition of cool: declaring abstinence until marriage, but not living in a convent in the meantime.

Rather, the organization puts together events and outreach programs in the Northeast that are full of young people, from event hosts to the models of their clothing line to entertainment.

The goal of the group is to bring together teens and 20-somethings of all races, religions and backgrounds to talk about something other than sex.

CNN Live Video will air an interview with members of "I Am Worth the Wait" from Washington, D.C., at 3 p.m. ET Friday and wants to hear from you. What would you like to ask them? Post your question as a comment below, or, better yet, put it on video and send it in to I-Report.

SATAN’S REGRETS

READ: 1Corinthian 2:5-8

MEMORIZE: “Which none of the princes of this world knew: for had they known it, they would not have crucified the lord of glory” (1Cor.2:8).

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Deut. 29-31
READ: 1Corinthian 2:5-8

Another limitation of Satan is that he does not even know how to solve his own problems. His wisdom has become foolishness. Meeting a man, who cannot solve his problems to assist you in solving yours, is the height of deceit and folly. Jesus Christ is the problem-solver. HE can solve any problem irrespective of its nature- physical, material, spiritual, intellectual, psychological, health, etc. Hence in Matthew 11:28-30;he invites all distressed people to come and find rest. Jesus has a rest for you which you may never get until you come and find him. Receive him now.

Satan may be worldly wise but in handling spiritual matters, he has proved to be foolish on several occasions.1Corinthians 2:7 says; ‘But we speak the wisdom of God in a mystery, even the hidden wisdom, which God ordained before the world unto our glory’. God’s wisdom is hidden from men and Satan; hence in all games of wits, God has defeated Satan times without number. In your life the wisdom of Satan will become foolishness in Jesus name. Satan’s foolishness has caused a great setback and led to several regrets. In your life, family, and ministry, Satan shall continue to regret in Jesus name. Let us see a few examples where Satan had problems but did not know how to solve them.


“Then released, he Barabas unto them: and when he had scourged Jesus, he delivered him to be crucified”(Matt.27: 26). Until Jesus came to this world, Satan did and eroded the power of the kingdom of darkness little by little. He raised up a few dead, healed some sick and delivered the oppressed. Satan had a big problem on his hands. How could he put an end to the disgrace he was getting from Jesus? He decided to arrest him and scourged and tore his flesh in pieces. While this was going on, Satan and his demons were celebrating. If only they had known that those same stripes would become the basis for healing and perfect health for those they had kept in sickness. Oh, he regrets that day! Also, on the cross, he tempted Jesus through one of the thieves crucified by his side. This led to the salvation of one of the thieves who was doomed for hell. How Satan and his demons regret this! 1Corinthians 2:8 says if Satan had known, he would not have crucified Jesus. He wanted an end to Christ but after the crucifixion, he now has millions of little Chirsts to contend within addition, after the crucifixion, Jesus went to defeat him in the headquarters of the satanic kingdom, recovered Adam’s stolen mandate and gave it to you and I who are genuine believers. He could have avoided all these but he was foolish.Source

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ACTION POINT: Thank God for his excellent wisdom. Ask that Satan would regret over all his activities in your life, family, finances, and ministries.

October 17, 2007

When it seems like Heaven is silent....

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When it seems like Heaven is silent....

Remember the story of the woman in Mark 14, whom Cece Winans sang a song,”alabaster box” about? As I sit here pondering on few things, that song came to me. Sometimes, the future look so bleak and blurry, and its easy sometimes to be caught up in our little worlds of “Hows?” and “Whens?”, “Where?”, “Who?”……and yeah, we read it, hear it all the time-Trust God! Or, wait on the Lord!....The reality however is, so long as we are humans, perhaps just a little bit, sometimes, we really want to know what we want to know….or maybe even catch a tiny glimpse of it. And how so quickly do we wonder “where is God in the middle of all these?” or “what happened to all the promises?”….Needless to say, these questions and more are asked by countless number of people, everyday, everywhere, in every language, tongue and tribe. I think back on Bible days and wonder if those people share the same sentiments with us in this day and age…..No? I think yes! Everytime the story of this woman is told, we hear about a symbol of worship. How she humbled herself at the master’s feet, wept on them, dried them with her hair and oiled them with perfume. As much as yes! It was her worship, I believe the story, has a deeper revelation in it. This woman, just like us all, had unanswered questions in her mind. “How can I get my prayers answered?”, “How on earth can he ever forgive my many sins?”, “when will I get out of this financial mess?”, “when will my estranged husband and prodigal children return home?”, “ when will I have somebody I can call my own?”, “will I ever get pregnant, Lord?”, “what about this business that isn’t doing well, Lord?”…amongst so many others. This woman understood the principle of sowing…..she, in spite of what others around would think, do or say, she thrusted herself humbly at the feet of her Lord and gave of herself selflessly and unreservedly. She cried her questions out, and though she spoke no words, everything she said was heard. After she finished weeping, by faith, she wiped the tears with her hair, in my understanding, saying : its over! No more tears! This too shall pass! After wiping, she brought out her little jar of alabaster and she sprayed it on the feet of Jesus-and that to me speaks volumes! This will not just pass. My crying will not just end. A sweet aroma is coming out of this! Testimonies amidst testimonies will spring forth out of this. After my trials, I will triumph, testimonies will come out of my tests, and my mess will become a message for generations yet unborn! That was all she did-not in words, but by her deed. Little wonder Jesus openly declared after seeing what this woman did in faith-“Your sins are forgiven!”, “Your FAITH has saved you, go in peace!”,-Your testimony has started!, Your husband and children are returning home!, Your business starts to prosper!, No more financial breakdown! Etc etc….I can imagine what this woman’s life became after that encounter/experience. She must have become a totally new person, changed forever! All prayers answered! Perhaps you say, “but I have cried!”, or “Ain’t I a worshipper already?”…..Maybe you have/are! But do you BELIEVE? Have you FAITH? Faith does not look at the clock for God-because he is God and he will do as he pleases….when it pleases him! When he said to Abraham-“I will give you a child”, He didn’t say WHEN. And it got to a stage, Abraham tried to help God, and went ahead to get his servant pregnant-who wouldn’t? However, when the APPOINTED time came, the promise came, and though it tarried, it DID NOT tarry! The only qualification Abraham had, with which he used to pass the test of “sacrifice your ONLY son to me” was the qualification of PATIENCE and TRUST. He had learnt those two in the decades of waiting for the promise of this child, and when God asked back for it, he didn’t even think twice to question him or hesitate, because he just KNEW that somehow, the promise of “NATIONS will come out of you” will come to pass any which way! So beloved, when sometimes it seems like HEAVEN IS SILENT, and all roads lead to the very many questions-remember, God is God, and He demands that His children TRUST him completely. FAITH provokes God to ACT. The three Hebrew boys, Daniel, and many others readily come to mind. The only thing I cannot safely tell you is WHEN…but will God answer or will he not? I KNOW He WILL…….for, Heaven is NOT ALWAYS SILENT!
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'Peculiar' (not real name) is one of the Christian sisters I have been privileged to meet on the Internet. ANd her words above are just encouraging and uplifting.

Let me add some personal words .....

Pastor Adeboye preached at my church last Sunday, and his message was "Wind of Change", and the verse was Psalm 150:6. Just simply what we hear everyday.........Let everything that has breathe, PRAISE the Lord! He preached on that simple message! That if one still has breathe, they should just praise the Lord and all will be well! God is Alive! And we are Alive! And we should just praise God!!!! ALL THE TIME!!!!

As long as there is life, there is hope!!!

I dont wanna preach in here, but I remember another pastor at the Festival of Life Celebration last weekend who said that we cant have a testimony with no test!!! And we have to go through the PROCESS to get to the PROMISED LAND AND PALACE!! I LOVE JOSEPH. He went through the PIT, THE PROCESS, THE PRISON, TO THE PALACE!!!

Imagine if he had been grumbling and being nasty to everyone in the PRISON, he would never have made it to the PALACE.

I LOVE the story of the GEODES as told by Joyce Meyer, (i have written a lot about it here on NR, and on my blog), but the summary is that they are very ugly on the outside, but filled with gems on the inside!

SO, WHEN HEAVEN SEEM SILENT, REMEMBER THAT JUST LIKE THE GEODES, GOD IS CREATING AWESOME, SHINNING CRYSTALS AND GEMS ON THE INSIDE!! AND WHEN YOU LOOK UGLY ON THE OUTSIDE, THE WORLD MAY TAUNT AND EMBARRASS AND LAUGH AT YOU!! IT IS OK, ITS JUST ANOTHER GOD'S WAY OF PROTECTING YOU FROM THEIR EVIL EYES! BECAUSE DEEP INSIDE, THE CRYSTALLIZATION PROCESS IS TILL GOING ON UNDISTURBED! AND CRYSTALLIZATION HERE COULD BE THE MOLDING OF YOUR CHARACTER SO THAT WHEN YOUR BREAKTHROUGH COMES, YOU STILL REMAIN IN GOD'S WILL!!!)

EVENTUALLY, WHEN THE GEODE IS OPENED, ALL MANNERS OF EXPENSIVE GEMS MATERIALIZE! THAT IS YOUR TESTIMONY TIME! WHEN PEOPLE GO FROM.."ISNT THIS THAT MAN/WOMAN WHO COULD NOT FEED HIM/HERSELF JUST YESTERDAY?"......THE WHOLE WORLD WOULD KNOW THAT GOD ALONE DID IT!

WHEN HEAVEN SEEMS SILENT, DO YOUR PART, TRUST GOD LIKE A FOOL! STAY IN FAITH NO MATTER WHAT!! REFUSE AND DENY THE COUNTERFEIT HELP/ASSISTANCE DEVIL MAY BRING YOUR WAY TO REDUCE YOUR 'PAIN'! MAKE GODLY CHOICES!!!
TAKE THE NARROW ROAD THAT LEADS TO VICTORY AND TAKES YOU HOME TO GOD!

SHALOM!

October 15, 2007

It's been a scary minute.......................NOT!!

Hmmm.... Miss my blog. Haven't written here in a while. Been busy catching up on stuff. I dared to take a weekend off to attend the most amazing Birthday festival I ever saw. In summary, MIAMI, FLORIDA IS FINE!!!! Kapish! Ain't no plus or minus on that! I am glad for the good time I had! With the girls. It was awesome. Ms A, Ms A, Ms. M (they know themselves ;-)....I respect people's privacy. I can write out the names when I take permission from them, OK....

Anyhoo.....its really been a scary minute! Especially having to find out the evil being concocted for me by certain persons! Let me just use this line to address all of you here as I know you all scrounge around my blog, websites, myspace and wherever I write or am mentioned! You have stupidly being crank-calling me with blocked numbers but you see that didn't work to scare me!

When I did business from home, you sent some of your stooges to come to my house under the guise of being clients just to get a scoop on me and how I live!!

One of you have gone even a notch up by pulling up my background record and my credit report, and faxing it all around her friends, just know that what goes around comes around! I WILL NOT even bother to legally deal with you on that because I have a GOD that fights my wars for me! How you got access to my social security number is in itself illegal! But, I got news for you! I am changing my social security number!! And I got an advice for you! = GET A LIFE!!! STOP STALKING AND FOLLOWING ME AROUND!!! STOP ALL THE EVIL WISHES! STOP ALL THE EVIL PLANS!! STOP THE SLANDERS! STOP THE DEFAMATION OF MY CHARACTER!!! JUST STOP ALREADY!!! TELL YOUR EQUALLY DERANGED FRIEND TO STOP ALL THE DIABOLICAL THINGS! You know why? BECAUSE I AM COVERED BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS!
Vamoose! Scram!! Shooo! GIVE IT UP ALREADY! I am going up! God has already blessed me with even extras! Learn to praise God with me and HE will bless you too! The more you try to mess me up, the more you are messed up! Enuff said!! Its simply a RETURN-TO-SENDER judgment.

I will come back to gist more...Hmmmmmm.......maybe not! Cos I dont even bother with stuff like this! New detractors rise up daily, and my God fights them all off for me, why should I worry? ;-)......I know that HE who called me has HIS protective arms around me! HE has planted a hedge of protection round about me and all that is related to me! So, why should I worry what little mere humans like you cook up.

For now though, I will tell everyone else who is being persecuted just because God is blessing them to always be in prayer always! Trust God, NO MATTER what!!! HE will surely protect you from enemies and see you through it all to the Glory of HIS name! AMEN.

Infact been a blessed and sanctified minute! AMEN!

October 8, 2007

The Beauty of Math!

This is fascinating.
Be sure to go all the way to the end. Absolutely amazing!

The Beauty of Math!
1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321

1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111

9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888


Brilliant, isn't it? And look at this symmetry:

1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 121
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 = 1234321
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
11111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
111111111 x 111111111=12345678987654321



Now, take a look at this... 101%

From a strictly mathematical viewpoint:
What Equals 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?

Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?
We have all been in situations where someone wants you to GIVE OVER 100%.

How about ACHIEVING 101%?
What equals 100% in life?

Here's a little mathematical formula that might help answer these questions:

If:
A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z is represented as:

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.

If:
H-A-R-D-W-O-R- K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%

And:
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%

But:
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%

THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:
L-O-V-E-O-F-G-O-D
12+15+22+5+15+6+7+15+4 = 101%

Therefore, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that:
While Hard Work and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, It's the Love of God that will put you over the top!

It's up to you if you share this with your friends & loved ones just the way I did.

October 3, 2007

Single ladies with married younger siblings....

For singles ladies:
How do you feel with younger married siblings? Especially sisters?I have two brothers, one is married, and the other one is gettting married this year too! So, I am the only single person in my family! !!! lol..... It dont bother me though. I actually encouraged my brother to marry his girlfriend of 6 years! I am like, "dude, what are you waiting for?! Marry this babe before another guy steals her from you O!" That babe, my sis-in-law proved herself worthy to bear our last name!

She was there when my brother finished his housemanship, when he started working, when he even had to quit his job once when the traveling became too much and once he couldnt get fuel for his car, he rushed to catch the last vehicle to Zaria, missed it by minutes and later learnt that the vehicle had an accident and all occupants died. Then, a family meeting was held as per "FASHY PFIZER ABEG!!!" But, my sis-in-law was still there during the jobless months (even though bobo was well taken care of), but she still stuck there till he got a better job.....infact, my brother is blessed! That is the way a woman should be! Stand by her man! (And I had done that twice and came out burnt! Jobless goat I fell in love with, and got engaged to! Only say when the idiot find job come begin make small money, hin leave me follow under 25!! Imagine! And i was 29 then!! Hissssssssssss These days, I dey shine eyes O! Bobo get to have a j.o.b! Kapish! ) Anyway, I was glad when he decided to marry her. Cos I told him she had invested too much to not be his wife. I asked him one question: "You dont like me crying of heartbreaks, would you want what happened to me to happen to her? Please dont be like the losers I have always dated! Show that there are still honorable men in the world" And he married her! And they have given my parents a GRANDCHILD! So, that closed the story of "We want a grandchild O!, Stop being picky, marry and give us one!" They have one! Thanks to my brother! pressure reduce small! Phew!!

Now my second brother is getting married to his babe of 4 years! Yipppeee! It was supposed to have been a double wedding with my other brother, but they changed their minds! And I was supposed to have gotten married same year too! A triple wedding would have rocked the whole palace and people that day! Oh well! Mine flopped! :-). 1st brother's happened, now last brother is getting hooked this year! I am very proud of my brothers!! They are my bestest friends! I love them to death and they are proofs that there are well brought up men, and there are men who are responsible, there are men who are caring, there are men who are honest, and there are men who know how to take care of a woman!

So, you see, that is why inspite of the basketful of heartbreaks I have had, and the failed engagements and relationships, I refuse to believe all men are evil or beasts!! I know there are good ones! I just havent met them! And that is why I am not in a haste to settle for less. I have three solid men in my life who are the Best Fathers, husbands and also my Daddy and brothers.

So, ladies, single ladies, how do you feel when your younger siblings get married before you? I have no sister, but I am guessing a younger sister getting married before an older one is hard to swallow? It creates emotional rejection issues, and/or even envy and jeaslousy? Am I right? Pray, tell.....

October 2, 2007

Meeting old friends after so many years......

have you recently met old friends after a long long time of being incommunicado?
How did you react? How was it? Did you have old unresolved issues? Did you spend time gisting and catching up?
How was it? Please share your experiences...

I'll start.....
I woke up one morning to see a yahoo offliner text from a class mate in secondary school! I was sooooooooo happy! Cos I never thought we would ever meet again.

He was one of those guys we all used to walk home together after school, gisting and telling all sorts of stories and we were a group of 8. The chicks - (Pauline, Gladys, Christy, Franca, Anthonia, and me) and the guys, Ayo, Walter, Gideon........we lived in the same area of Kano State then.....so, on the walk home, from the bus stop, I would turn into my gate, while the rest of them continued and Gideon and Walter (brothers) were usually the last to get home. Cos they lived further down the street.

Franca died two years ago during childbirth! :( Rest in peace Franca!!)

I lost contact with Pauline, but will catch up now that I have found Walter! She was my closest friend. She is older and treated me like a kid sister (and I loved the attention cos I have no sister). There were three other people in our group, but they lived in the other part of town, so, were not part of our bussing group.

Anyhoo, Walter sends me a text and we connect and the gist wouldn't end, he lives in USA here too, and when we talked, it was like yesterday!!! ;) Like time froze!

And I just met a long lost friend from my University Days yesterday too. Silvia.

HOW I MET SILVIA
This cute looking babe passes me, I was trying to balance myself on my stiletto heels with my wine glass that was spilling cos someone bumped into my elbow......and then I heard in the softest voice ever " I KNOW YOU!!!"...and I was like, OK......<thinking in my head: what have I done now O! Na who be dis one again?!> And truly, she looked very familiar!!! So I told her, "I KNOW YOU TOO"! She asked, " Govt college ,........?"<in my head, I was like, Govt. gini?> , but my mouth says NO. She then asks "University of Jos?" And I say " YES"!!! And she says "Psychology", and I say "Psychology too!!!".

....NEXT THING was us shrieking and hugging!!! I finally remembered her!!!! Wow!! What are the odds........bumping into a friend you have not seen in the last 13 years at a function at the Nigerian Embassy! And she has been living about 15 minutes away from you in the past 4 years!!!??Need I say the rest of the evening was AWESOME!!! Meeting all her friends and she meeting mine, picture-taking all over the place......it was FUN!!! When her friends asked her how she recognized me, she said I have not changed in physique one bit! OK people, is that a good or bad? That I have not changed physically in look and shape for 13 years?! Hmmmmm.........

....hmmmm....seems my old friends are popping out from places now!!! I love that! heck! These are people who knew me from when my chest was still flat, who were there when we went through the hard teenage years, and who one withstood so many peer pressures with, these are friends one knew when the only care we had in the world was simply to make good grades!! No bills, no stress, just collect pocket money from home and turn in good grades! ;) And who most of all were from good homes and well brought up, so we didnt indulge in mischievous stupid sinful tricks because we were good kids with good grades!

its really nice to meet old friends.

But i know its not always positive, I have met one or two old friends that I cut off so fast the door slammed on their butts! hee hee hee......for example this old buffoon who did not have enough guts to chase me in University of Jos, even though he was my classmate, now getting some guts to chase me and tell me the whole crap of "I always admired you in class and didnt know how to approach you cos you were a big chick then" etc....and I asked him, if you didnt approach me then, why now? The yeye igbo man told me that "cos I am a big boy naw!!" I was like, ehhh? Really? And you think I am not a bigger chick now, eh? Anyway, I tot to myself, if he did not look appealing then that I didnt even notice his advances, then, he just aint cut it!

Singing he wanted to marry me blah blah blah! I told him he is a stranger and he quoted the many years we sat in class together, that he knew me blah blah blah. I said you are a stranger, kapish! Join the line to be considered for marriage! LOL.... I wasnt feeling dude at all! I remembered him back then as a dubious fellow! Who would even write the tests and exam points on his bomber jacket! On his arms, he had all types of stick-up notes in his jackets! No matter the weather, he wrote exams in big jacket! I remember that on the last day we wrote our degree exam, he was caught with a cheat sheet, which he chewed fast and swallowed! GOAT!! And the lecturer saw him, and he still graduated with us!! Dubious character!!! Not a husband candidate abeg!!!

And I was right! I told him off, and he cussed me out as usual! .....and heard months later from another classmate that Odeh already had an equally mgbeke babe he was going to marry in naija and was just trying his dubious nature on me!! He really DIDN'T and NEVER knew me, or hin for no even try at all!

So, meeting old friends can be good or bad....I guess one has to thread gently, knowing that so much water has passed under the bridge for so long......

October 1, 2007

Proverbs 24:16
For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again, But the wicked
stumble in time of calamity.
New American Standard Bible (©1995)


The righteous sure does fall so many times indeed, but stand up, they must! because He that is in them is greater than he that is in the world. And how can anyone taste the goodness of God and turn their backs on God 360 degrees?

Strange thing is, I was a very devoted Catholic, so, I have been a Christian all my life! Things changed when I was in my second year in University, at the age of 18. Long story short, I had a different type of hunger for God. I wanted to know God more than that the latin masses and rosary prayers and wanted something more direct and interractive!

And that was when the 'New Generation' churches trend started in Nigeria. Pretty, intelligent, beautiful, awesome looking girls were joining the 'born-again' revolution! Which was a very sharp contrast from the Campus Scripture Union (SU) and the Deeper Life Christians!

Sure, some of us (who were not influenced by peer pressure) wanted to be really devoted to Christ, but not with wearing those turtle necks in the hot sun (as Deeper Life and SU students did!!!) The message those days was "Get Saved, the Kingdom of God is coming!! If you are not saved, you will go to Hell!!!", not like these days that the preachings are more like " Give to God all your money, trust Him and you will be very rich!! He will bless you back, with riches running over!! blah blah blah"!! So, one had fear of hell then.

Anyway, to see a new sect of Christianity where one could be one's self was amazing!! No more 'Not-wearing-trousers-to-Catholic-churches'!! Or any more "TIE HEAD SCARF BEFORE PRAYING" mania! One could actually wear trousers and leave hair open and worship God!
And with all the pretty girls who refused to sign up for the Miss Unijos beauty pageants that I was involved in organizing, just because they were born-agains! Got me thinking! I realized there was beauty in serving God. And I attended a church service in town - (Zoe Christian Center), and my life changed from that first meeting! It was like the whole heavenly hosts were waiting for me! I gave my life to Christ that day and I am very grateful to God for finding me then! Because answering that altar call then is what kept me alive till date! I learnt to pray and warfare with the bible and I lived till date.

And I fell a couple of times! But I was never too far from stepping out and asking God to take me back! By the time I answered my 4th altar call here in USA in December 2004, I told God to chain me down, strip me off anything that could make me fall! Take away anyone that would make me fall! My prayer changed to : Please God, take away anyone that I dont need in my spiritual walk with you, and bring in only those that I need in my spiritual walk with thee"
Has it been easy? No! Cos, its when the devil sees you so dedicated that he sends the wrong people covered in sheep's clothings! That was when I found out that most human beings are simply and through and through carnal!! They may carry the bible, but their heart is far from it! They may profess love, but chose which of the commandments of God to keep. But God has been faithful.

The toughest thing for a single girl in USA is keeping to her God. Cos I tell you, its when a girl decides to go the whole nine yards with God that all sorts of men would arise that fit perfectly with the "Mr. Right" expectation, but who go deaf when they hear the word - "CELIBATE"
And I don't get it! How can a man say he is a Christian, claim he is born-again, and then whine and complain when a babe tells him she is celibate for God!! Why? But yet we do it! We remain celibate! Not because we are not attractive, but simply because it is a Godly thing to do!

My thing is this: If a man cant wait for you for keeps, he ain't serious! The way I have summarized it is this: A man that wants to steal what can be his (if he is serious and honest) is simply a dog!!! Because, why cant they leave the babe that says NO! And go look for those that have no reservations about messing up their body and their lives?

My advice is this: Stay far away from that guy who makes it like he doesn't care about sex with you, but yet wont stop trying to seduce you albeit, subtly! And the guy that wants to talk erotic on the phone is as good as physically trying to do it! And why would a mab want to sneak from the phone what can be rightfully and totally his?! Dont ask me please!!! men are simply amazing! Dont judge a Christian brother by the number of times he uses "God" in one sentence! Judge him based on his talks and walks!

Enuff said!
I love THE BEAUTIFUL PRAYER. Very touching prayer indeed.The one that touched me most was this part:


I ask God to help me LOVE others, as much as He loves me. God said...Ahhhh,
finally you have the idea
.
Because its really not easy sometimes doing simple things like loving your neighbors as yourself. I know it was not initially easy for me when enemies arose in my life! And being an on-going thing makes it tougher! Its simply a true test of one's faith, I tell you! Cos while you are angry at them, you aint definitely praying or praising God! So, its soooooo NOT worth it!

The Guest minister at my church yesterday- Pastor Sturdivant seemed to have been talking directly at me! You know that uneasy feeling when you are in church and the pastor is preaching and its like he is talking to you one-on-one? About stuff you actually only talked to God about prior to coming to church?!

He preached from 1 Samuel Chapter 30 and was talking about when David returned and found out that they had lost everything! They wept till they couldnt weep no more! A king and his soldiers wept!!


1Sam 30:4 Then David and the people that were with him lifted up their
voice and wept, until they had no more power to weep.
How kings and anointed people of God would at one point in their lives lose all!!! And that is because its within God's plan to form their character so that when they make it back up, they would only ascribe the glory to God and no one else?

So, people, if you are down now, its part of the PROCESS of life! You cant get the POSSESSION without going through a PROCESS.

And then in Verse 19 of same chapter, they recovered all!

1Sam 30:19 And there was nothing lacking to them, neither small nor great,
neither sons nor daughters, neither spoil, nor anything that they had taken to
them: David brought back all.
And you know how? THROUGH an enemy!!! An Egyptian weary soldier that was left behind by his own people!


1Sam 30:13 And David said unto him, To whom belongest thou? and whence art
thou? And he said, I am a young man of Egypt, servant to an Amalekite; and my
master left me, because three days ago I fell sick. 1Sa 30:15 And David said to
him, Wilt thou bring me down to this troop? And he said, Swear unto me by God,
that thou wilt neither kill me, nor deliver me up into the hands of my master,
and I will bring thee down to this troop.
Saying that not all enemies are bad!! Some are actually there because they would play a divine role in your life somehow. And I know this to be true. God plants friends to even turn into enemies to do a good to our lives!

Trust me, I have personal testimonies to that.Truth in my life is that some things done to me by enemies (we all have them) ended up being actual blessings to me in more ways than one! I cant explain it. So, next time when a best friend, a sibling, a parent, a colleague changes and starts acting strange and 'mean' or 'hateful', fret not! Just pray. Dont be too fast to retaliate! And the hard part, love them like Christ loves you! Now, that is a tough one! Isn't it? But with the Grace of God, its possible. Yeah, that is one area I ask God daily for more grace to love back enemies, definitely not easy, but I have been doing it, and have been blessed in the process. And God does awesome things in my life daily! Shows me that enemies' actions and behaviors dont matter in my destiny! Its my reaction that makes the difference.

And Pastor Sturdivant also said that being angry and holding onto what people did or said about you is like drinking a spiritual poison. Because you are killing yourself with anger, killing your spirituality while losing your blessings God has in store for you! And holding unto grudges keeps your hands occupied to receive the blessings coming your way......

Powerful message, loved it! And that is what a good sermon should do, touch our hearts and make us want to change, right? And I am glad for that........I need my hands to collect all the goodness and blessings I have remaining in this 2007. And no one is worth losing them! NONE at all!

Stay blessed y'all, and love, love, love no matter what! It frees your mind to think good thoughts... Phillipians 4:8
Php 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are
honorable, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever
things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue,
and if there be any praise, think on these things.

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