November 25, 2007

The turkeys are gone!

Thanksgiving is over. But we should still be thanking God everyday. Even for waking up this morning, I thank Him.

For breathing, I Thank Him

For being healthy and alive, I Thank Him.

I Thank God.

I had an awesome Thanksgiving Day.

I started the day by volunteering at church to package food for the homeless and also for our street evangelism.

I love my church, Jesus House DC, the people that turned up that morning was amazing! People left home in that cold to come take care of the needs of the less fortunate before going home to eat their own turkeys. And we had fun. Though I had to leave after the packaging to go cater for a client that came from out of town, and who texted/called me into dizziness! lol.

I had wanted to go on the streets and share the food with my church members. Oh well, there is always another Thanksgiving.

I had late lunch on Thanksgiving day. I eventually got to my foster Mum's house and they had my own food set aside that I truly got down to! It was awesome!

And then, her mother who is 87 years old regalled me with stories of her life during the Vietnam War! Wow!!! I will write a post on that soon! Some of these old folks have stories that would tingle your ears!! Their stories are like the movies we watch, only this time, it happened to them! I should write a book on her stories! I think I should.....hmmmmm.....

Picture: Me, Mum and her friend at Thanksgiving. (poor dead turkey on the table :(

Anyway, to a lovely Thanksgiving Celebration, and to love and to life, Stay well. To all the countless text messages of thanksgiving I got, may God bless you all and make your lives something to be thankful for, ALWAYS. Amen.

Picture: Boris, Me and Annita (my American mum and her brother)

November 21, 2007

Bizness savvy or Bitchy?!.....

Am sorry, I am NEVER one to mix bizness and pleasure! Trying to mix it up with me throws the feminine part of me outta the window and ushers in the Femino-macho part of my business brain! That has been termed sometimes "stubborn' or 'hard-babe'., 'strong-willed' etc!

Never was one to date a classmate, a co-worker, a house-mate, a neighbor, a business partner or stuff like dat! Me likes to keep it clearly defined as BUZINEZZ!!!! Blame me daddy for that! He made me see business and all the stuff that goes with it from an early age! Cos when you mix business and pleasure, so many business decisions you need to take would be tempered down by emotion from the pleasure part! And so many pleasurable decisions you need to make would be hardened with the business part! Am I making sense to you? OK, simple English: = E no easy!! It gets messy!

So, when I was in the IT resell business (which was more of a man's world, as per mostly guys delved into it), I was comfy cos I do well with the masculine gender as opposed to girls and their silly 'how-to-catch-a-rich-man-to-pay-all-their-bills' schemes - blah!!! What's God give them brain cells for?! Anyhoo, the IT world was a good place for moi cos I could relate with the boys, and that came with its own 'chasing' from them, and that was kinda cool cos I could afford to be 'hard', 'bitchy' , 'tough', 'principled' that came with the turf! So, my feminine part was subdued and I could fend the boys off and keep it strictly business! And they respected me for that and we kept it going.....!

If one was talking about going to lunch and I am talking about how to drive to NY to go load up some consignment of routers and switches that I would put on my jeans and metal top boots to haul equipment as heavy as 60 lbs! with no make-up! even the horniest guy would run and say "the babe too tough abeg" or "that one na man!" as I heard a lot of times. ha ha ha

Anyhoo, that was a good territory to 'dodge' guys easily. Just talk technology or tell them about a very profitable deal, and their chasing would fly out of the window! lol

Now in fashion business, how does one fend of guys without being 'rude' and 'bitchy'? Seeing for one, I would have to 'model' some of my clothes myself which truth is makes the woman in me come out! Makes me more sensual and more graceful and attractive to the eyes. How? (Haba! I am not bragging keh! Na the whole idea of my designs keh! Shuo!)

Anyway, recently I have been called 'tough', 'bitchy', 'old-school', just because I tell dudes to keep it biznezz! Like this dude who is also into fashion and who has a lovely collection that I want to do some stuff with that "I DONT MIX BUSINESS WITH PLEASURE"! He now reminds me of my age and need to 'loosen up' and get married! And how people in same business do well etc ! Duh! I will do that when the time comes, but if we were introduced to do business, please let's do BUZINEZZ!!!!! And I believe in Opposites Attract! So,....keep the cocktails and dinners and love outta this equation!!! Let's talk profits and profits! I got plans and I see collaborating with you will fetch me cool money and also fetch you cool money and you get to ride on my popularity as well!! So, how about we stick and look to the dollars!? This has turned out to be a yeye trend these days! Why cant men just talk BUSINESS with a woman!!! Being single dont mean I am available for any 'toasting'!!!! Haba!

Am I a bitch?! NO!! I am just a business woman!!!! Sorry if I come off too hard when I am talking business, but I was taught in my MBA class that business is Formal and business is a serious matter! Right? And I am being a business woman now because while there are no sentiments and emotions beclouding any one's judgment, our lawyers can write up iron-clad contracts that would protect both our businesses and interests! So that if I ever or eventually get carried away by your dreamy eyes and tall silhouette, or your very admirable business savviness, the 'I's would have been dotted and the 'Ts' crossed, so that if we call it quits, I may just have only my ego bashed (not my heart! I dont get broken-hearted no more! hee hee hee), and my pride hurt, but will still have my buzinezz still intact, un-dented! Kapish!

For now, one more potential business partner got to be put on my "DO NOT ANSWER THIS CALL" list. He got to go! And the potential dollars he could rake into my company cos, he is foolishly sticking to his emotions and love and those mushy talks! Abeg! Can we do buzinezz! You would love the business part of me as well, I promise! Think of the dollar ($) signs! In my business role, I am smart, chic, sometimes brutal (), savvy, fast, intelligent, creative, and oh, sexy (yeah yeah yeah......looking good sells! (and I don't mean being cheap and trashy or slutty!!!)

So, why do men see women who stick to 'Strictly Business' as bitches?! Tell me abeg! Cos, I am losing dollars as I write!!!

Do I find dude attractive? Oh yes! But, I want the brainy, business part of him!!!! Not the masculine him that I am sure so many girls are drooling over too! I no get time, na the $ I want. heck! What's love got to do with it!!!!!

November 20, 2007

Giving..........DO you?

I remember as a kid my mum going through my closet and packing my clothes, as much as a full suitcase almost every other 3 months just to give out to those she said were "less fortunate". And she used to have this tendency to pick the clothes I called my "Most Favorite"!! Of course I would wail and hala and shout at the top of my voice for her to take those I didnt really care much for!

And then her test would come in form of some questions, like:
Mum: When was the last time you wore this your very favorite dress?",
Me: long time, I cant remember...
Mum: How many times have you worn it?
Me: Once
Mum: So, how is it favorite if you don't wear it always?
Me: I just like it!
Mum: Ok, so how about someone else that would wear it all the time take it?
Me: NO!!!!! NO!!!

wharreva! After all the wailing, my closet would be half-empty! My 'favorite dresses' all GONE!!! "Mean Mommy!!! lovely mummy, we would go shopping the very next Saturday, cos I would have sulked enough! And would threaten not to go to church if I don't get my lovely dresses back!The site of cute new dresses took away the anger of the lost ones! Mummy can shop!!!!!!!! She worked at the bank! And was a power dresser! I tormented my classmates in university when I became big enough and could wear mummy's suits and all, and walked into the campus looking all sophisticatedly(sp) dressed! (I rarely wore jeans on campus! I dressed Up!)

Ok, the reason for this gist is......? DO YOU GIVE?

And I mean, do you give out stuff you still like? Not things you don't use and have no need of, or those you have over-used that even Salvation Army would thrash it when they see it in their donation box?Early enough, my mum thought me that giving out things you value so much would lead to getting newer and better things! And IT WORKS!!!Dont get me wrong, I believe in doing stuff secretly, as God will bless you openly, but I want to prick your conscience to GIVE!! Especially this Thanksgiving period! God in His infinite Mercy will Bless you!

Oh! I sure have given out things I later cried and said, 'what was I thinking?" Sometimes I got better stuff , other times, that was it! but I know God blesses me in other ways! Its not about giving offering here now, or giving cash as alms to the poor, I am talking about giving out that dress you bought last week!! And NOT to your best friend or sister, but to a total stranger who cannot afford it!! Or dream of ever owning it!

I use Salvation Army sometimes, but other times, their 'waiting period' annoys me! Why should I have to wait for one week for them to come and carry my sturdy, mahogamy, intricately carved dining set that I could fling on Craigslist for a couple of thousand dollars?! Haba! At the roadsides when the light turn red, I have seen couple small charity organizations taking care of the less fortunates, I use those too! Or on, they have a section called "FREE STUFF", I post stuff I wanna give out there. But usually, I specifically state that I would rather give to a single parent mother, or to a low income family or to someone who truly and honestly needs it!

I made such a post recently for a big item I was giving away, a man emailed and said he didnt belong to any of the category, but that he as a little girl who just went through a liver transplant who that would bless. He even attached her medical papers to prove it! (I really felt it, cos I was going to give it to a single mum with 5 kids)...tough call that was....

I always testify how when I left Dallas in 2003 to VA, I left with just a suitcase and like 2 small boxes and my comforter (lol). Every other thing in my Texas-sized huge one-bedroom apartment went to charity! And I replaced all in no time! And I am calling them again cos I have to! Its what I do! There is divine blessing in giving!! Sure there is Ebay and Craigslist to sell stuff and make money, but how about just BEING A BLESSING TO ANOTHER! Someone you dont know!

I have always prayed to God a long time ago that may NOTHING ever be too precious to me that I would not want to give it out to bless another!Please GIVE! Some people cannot even afford a pair of shoe! Bless someone! Search your closets!!! There are stuff you have not worn in 6 months!!! GIVE OUT!!! In MD here for one, there are so many "DONATE CLOTHES HERE" boxes placed all over town!!! Its for your donations! Use them!!!

My best place I give sometimes is under the bridges (Oh yes, they exist in Washington DC). I love to give blankets, comforters, jackets etc to those people that sleep in the cold! I cant afford to give them shelter, but warmth, I can give! And I drop some money with stuff I leave. And good things too!!! Not cast aways! I could very well use my business name and do a drive and have camera and press to make noise that I am giving to the less fortunate, then, it becomes a show-off thing!! Its that one I do at night, when no one is watching, except God in heaven that matters!!! It is that donation I drop at the boxes or salvation army without attaching my name and contact info that is heaven-blessed! It is that homeless person sleeping at the bus stop who wakes up in the morning to see that he/she is covered with a nice lovely jacket or comforter with some cash in the pocket that I am sure the angels smile upon!


Haven't you heard that if you clutch unto too many things in your hands and never want to share, your hands would then be too occupied for you to collect the blessing God has ready for you to receive!It is ThanksGiving week! What are you giving? And to who? Your friends and family? How about the less fortunate than you!?

My mother's "mean" acts in my life shaped me for who I am today! Her dragging me to celebrate my 14th Birthday with children at the Motherless Babies' Home in Kano State changed my whole mindset about life! I saw that there were people who didn't have! Even kids like myself then!!! Now, I am acting like mum, and will be mean to my own children too!

But away from home, what are you doing on Thanksgiving Day!Thank God for the Turkeys, thank God for the potatoes (sweet and mashed!), thank God for the casserole and the wine and lovely friends etc. But how about the man on the street that didn't even have food all year round? That didn't even have a dining table and even on this day that people are going to eat, over eat and stuff themselves like gluttons, that man on the street would still have nothing to eat? And to think of all the foods that would be thrashed as well! Lord Have Mercy!!!

Yes, my Foster Mum is making an awesome lunch for us all, and you know rich white folks DONT spare nothing when it comes to Thanksgiving! Sure, it would be an awesome time! But I am glad she is also an angel, with a big heart, because they would wait for me a bit, depending on when I finish, or keep mine warm in the oven, because, I would have to go help feed the less fortunate at the shelter in the morning! Yes!! That is how I love to spend my Thanksgiving! I pick shelters or any food Kitchen where people that don't have would be fed, don on my jean and T-Shirt and get to work!

My girlfriend called to ask me what was my Thanksgiving plans, when I told her I was going tot he Shelter like I do every year, she sounded surprised, and said that was selfless...blah blah blah...that she never thought of it ever!

I was like Wow! U never did anything for others? She said no! And I wondered about this! And that is what prompted this write up! Per adventure some Nigerians on this Site don't give their time on Thanksgiving Day, maybe, you can this year and you would be blessed! There is still time! Ask your church, make phone calls! Even if it is one hour, ....take a look at the faces of those that have nothing, maybe then you can learn to appreciate God and Count Your Blessings!

I cant explain it, but it is a wonderful feeling to see you brought a little hope, a smile, joy to the life of another! I have always had this love and passion! From when I was 15 years and had as part of my assignment in Legion Of Mary to read to the blind students. And something I continued and in USA here, I have volunteered at Day Care centers, play centers etc... Its a feeling no money can buy!! No boyfriend or girlfriend, or father or mother or husband, or wife or children can give!!!

November 18, 2007


Culled from Taurenaminx Blog.

Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we
are powerful beyond measure.

It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. We ask
ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who
are you NOT to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the
world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won't
feel unsure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is
within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. As we let our own
Light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we
are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates

After watching Akeela and the Bee, Marianne's quote inspired me but as these things do, it kind of retreated to the back of my mind. But a lot of things have occurred around me in the past year that have caused me to remember the quote from time to time.

My strong beautiful ladies. When it comes to men, some of us just carry too much fear around with us and its just plain ugly. Fear causes you to compromise on your ideals, to make choices you wouldn't normally make, to look desperate, or to act a fool.

Scenario 1
Guy is very much interested in Rita. He runs through fire, jumps hoops, crosses the seven seas to get you. He succeeds, Rita falls. Suddenly Rita starts doing all the chasing. She cooks, cleans, buys presents, worries, cuddles, pets Guy. Sometimes she wants to go ballroom dancing but decides to do what Guy wants. When did the balance tip? Rita feels that she has to do all these things to ensure that Guy doesn't loose interest in her. She's afraid that being herself isn't good enough, she has to do all these extra things, not from her heart but for fear that he will leave her. Then Rita gets frustrated and upset. Guy doesn't appreciate the things he does for him. Guy probably doesn't recognise the exciting girl he knew Rita to be. The one who had such a full life with hobbies etc. Suddenly she's choking him and nagging him, making him feel inadequate.

Scenario 2
Tope is in love with Dotun. Whenever they quarrel be it Dotuns or Topes fault, a pattern repeats itself. Dotun sulks around and doesn't talk to her. He maintains a cold war and in the end shes the one begging for forgiveness. She cooks a nice meal which he may not eat. She calls him 100 times a day, she writes letters, she agrees she was wrong. Dotun sulks till he is ready to announce the end of the cold war. Tope is afraid that if she doesn't beg before its too late, Dotun might break up with her.

Scenario 3
Chichi really likes Emeka. They have gone on three dates and shes in Emekas house now and nobody is home. She wants to wait until she is married but Emeka is telling her he really likes her and is trying to convince her to sleep with him. She's not sure what to do. If she tell's him she's not ready, he might not go out with her again like the last guy she told besides he'll probably think shes old school and strange.

The problem here is that Rita and Tope and Chichi doubt themselves. They don't think that its enough to just be. A lot of us make the mistake of losing ourselves when we enter into relationships. All the confidence you once had in yourself and how brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous you are seems to evaporate. Rita tailored her life to Guys and then became resentful when she should have maintained her own hobbies and given the relationship some breathing space. Tope has entered into a pattern of emotional blackmail when all she needs to do is let Dotun get over his sulking, if he loves her fabulous self, he'll get over it and apologise if he is wrong. But if he knows she'll come begging, why should he? That is not an ideal relationship anyway. Chichi wants to compromise her beliefs for a guy she feels might not respect them. She's afraid that she will never have a relationship because of this decision she has made. If you don't believe in yourself then why will others?

This brings me to another quote

Bonaro W. Overstreet:

Perhaps the most important thing we can undertake
toward the reduction of fear is to make it easier for people to accept
themselves, to like themselves.

I recommend Boundaries, When to say yes and When to say no to everyone especially women. Its a very good read. Click on the link to read some of the chapters.

I'm not a guru in these matters oh, I'm just sharing thoughts playing in my mind. Feel free to share your philosophies :)

November 11, 2007

Project Runway: Season 4 starts on Nov 14th!

See line-up of designers for season 4 here

I am massively hating!!! Nonsense and ingredients for afang soup! Imagine! Yeye designers with fantabulous and over-good fashion-related educational backgrounds!! Hissssssssssssssss.
Dang! I am so getting a Fashion Cerificate or diploma at least before the next season auditions! So that make that chic no ask me again: "Do you have any formal fashion training?" Like say make I wuzzz her that day for audition!! She never hear of self-taught gurus!!Anyhoo! I wonder why na only one black person dey this season kwa!! Heeeehhhh! I am hating more O!!!
I been tell my Designer friend Afua (from Ghana) that the mistake we make be say we for just storm that audition with leaves covering our private angles and red camwood chalk all over us, chanting some "bungah wungah dungah sungah" incantations......dancing like true African jungle babes, and speaking with our 'worstest' African accent! then, dem for pick one of us at least to represent Africa! With the intention say we go just help their ratings for caricature, then, we go give them a running for their time!!! Gbam!!
Ok, seriously! I am so looking forward to PR this year! Even though yours truly didnt make the cut, I learn a lot from them! And I definitely will have to get that formal educational qualification ASAP! My degrees and diplomas and master dont cut it here in the fashion industry! =HARD TRUTH!!! Being why if you choose a career, get trained in it, no matter how much you know it! It boosts any Resume/Portfolio! I was supposed to be in Italy this last summer to get my Diploma Cert, but Green Passport TV show happened, I have no regrets!! Green passport is heaven sent and a blessing to me, and I can always audition for Project Runway. And I get to be one of the first cast members in Green Passport Reality TV Show! You can't beat that!!

Now, let me go order lots of popcorn, sit back, settle down, buy me some hatorade drinks and watch those 15 lucky designers annoy me till the end!! Cos in the past shows, I have had to utter things like, "Dang! I could do that with my eyes closed!!" Or.."Is that the best you can come up with? Why didnt they pick me!!!" Aggghrrrrh!!!

Lucky them and Good luck to them all. May the best win!

November 7, 2007

Ms Africa USA 2007

Ms Nigeria - Mfonobong Essien won the crown as Ms Africa 2007/08!!! She also carted away other prizes!!!
Ms Africa USA 2007 (Ms Nigeria) - Mfon Essien

Estella and Mfon

Woh!! As a sponsor and official designer for the show, I had to be neutral! For their Intro wear, I tried to keep hers as simple as possible. Infact, I believe I made it really simple....but asked her to rock it! Its not about the dress anyway. After all, she is my home girl keh! I made her a one-sleeved short frilly laces or cleavage poppers or fancy things like I did for some of the delegates. So, I was neutral.

I didn't make her traditional wear, so, I reckoned she had something up her sleeve. We are on both on Facebook, and I wondered why she never contacted me to make her traditional outfit though. But.............when for the talent scene, the babe popped out the full regalia of the Calabar Maiden dancers!!! I smiled secretly and it dawned on me! She was going all CULTURAL COUTURE!!

She had the WHOLE COMPLETE THING!! From the arm and wrist bands to the dangling bells made of wood to the straws to even the white traditional dotted chalks on the cheeks, forehead and chin!! SHE WAS COMPLETE!!

And then, she started dancing!! NO AWILO dance!! The TRUE AND REAL Calabar dance steps!!!! The crowd went gaga!!!!

Ok, now for the Evening wear (that doubled as the traditional wear as well.....) Ms Nigeria came out in the COMPLETE, and I mean TOTALLY COMPLETE Calabar maiden Coming of Age regalia!!!! With the heavy matted head cover, ladden with the real gold combs!!! She told me her mum just returned from naija! yeah yeah yeah, the crowd halared at the designs I made, but when you see culture, abeg, you got to bow!!! Enuff talk, just see some of the pictures here, I will upload up and personal ones later!!!

Mfon made Nigerians proud that day!! And people traveled from far to come support her! The crowd was divided between Sierra Leone and Nigeria........
I had fun! I am patriotically proud my Naija girl won and also proud that one of the three girls I personally designed an exquisite george red carpet ensemble came second- Ms Sierra Leone! And Karen Koukou (Ms Liberia) that I designed for also made the final 5.

Ms Sierra Leone - Elizabeth MBalu Conteh. She carted away so many other prizes: Miss Natural Beauty, Miss Voters Choice, 1st Runner Up in the Miss Africa USA Pageant. And she just turned 20 the day before the pageant!She is pretty, well spoken, and lovable. I already knew her family cos I designed a home-coming outfit for her cousin....and that family is blessed. She and her mother actually flew from Atlanta to Maryland to measure her and also sketch a design for her. Her mother wanted me to see her and feel what to design for her. And when I was done, they flew back to MD to pick it up.

Just like Ms Nigeria's mum, Ms Sierra Leone's mum went all out as well! Need I tell you how the mums were looking when their two girls were the last ones standing? !! I wish I was not actively involved, I would have loved to pick a camcorder and record reactions! ha ha ha....

Mbalu looked regal like a queen in the red dress I made her with sequined george fabric.
MBalu is her ESTELLA Couture Design.

It sure must have been a very difficult task for the judges! I am glad I was not one of them. because I would have been torn between so many things there. Like the fact that I designed personally for 3 of the delegates. And I also made the introductory wears for all the delegates, and two of the delegates are like my little sisters (Ms Sierra Leone and Ms Liberia). I am glad I was no judge!!!

Karen Koukou (Ms Liberia) also donned on one of my African couture designs. Made of Ghana fabric (I forget what it is called). It sure was a challenging task, but one I loved. You all know I love challenges. lol. Ms Liberia looked regal in my design as are pictures below....

Tired and sleepless, I had fun!!! It was an amazing pageant! And worth every time, resource and energy put in it! It was challenging in a way, because I found myself redoing most of the introductory outfits there in the dressing room! I had sewn stuff that I flew in with, but when I saw some of the girls face-to-face, I just knew I had to change their designs into more sensual, more feminine and more graceful wears that would match the beauty, the friendliness, the happy, and united front they all had. For a second, one could forget that it was actually a contest! The girls had formed friendships! They were happy!! They were helping one other out!

On the right is me backstage doing ma thang. And Yes! My hair is blonde! lol.

One delegate that had left her shoes in another's duffel bag, and who forgot it at the hotel had others bringing out gold shoes to match her outfit! I was touched!

And as a fashion designer, a great highlight for me was meeting Super Model Noella in person! She is pretty!!!! Even without her make-up on! And she is nice, friendly and very and totally down-to-earth!! You would think she was one of the contestants! No airs about her! And I love her french accent the most! Keep it up Noella! I look forward to working with you soon!

On the right is Estella, Carmen and Lady Kate (CEO/Founder of Ms Africa USA Pageant)

I have never seen a beauty pageant like this! IT IS THE BEST AFRICAN BEAUTY PAGEANT IN THE USA to me!! Organized and well coordinated! And I am proud to be part of Lady Kate's events! She spared nothing to give people the best show!

And Ms Africa USA 07/08 has now set a new precedence for other African beauty pageants!!! The outcome of this pageant will now make people stick close to their cultures when they are competing in any African-related beauty pageant!

It would make people showcase talents that are purely African! Why sing like Beyonce at a Ms Africa pageant?! When Africans are known for dancing and shaking what their mama gave them? Come on! Let's be realistic!

I had advised all the delegates to stick close to their national costume, but U know all Africa now like to dress like Nigerians! But the irony is that the Nigerian delegate refused to wear the popular Nigerian fashionable wears, and she told me her mum reckoned that as well, being why they decided to do something different. Our Nigerian girl went really local into her village and dug out a no-longer-popular attire! But one that would still melt a king's heart (or judges at any show). THE CALABAR MAIDEN COUTURE!!!

I am looking forward to Ms Africa USA 2008!

Congratulations Ms Africa USA 2008!
Congratulations Lady Kate for a show well done!

And congratulations to all the delegates!!! You all were amazing!!
I am so proud of you all! You all have things going on in your lives academically! You are all focused and with drive and career-oriented!

You are all winners in your own rights, but only one winner was needed that night! I am confident that you all will make Africa proud someday soon!

Please DONT give up on all the platforms you already have. With or without a crown, you can still make a difference in our society and our continent.

Their website is for more detail of event.

Random Pictures......

In Estella Couture Designs..

Estella and Friend - Amy Conteh

Ms. Estella (photo by Noadex, Atlanta, GA)

Ms. Estella (photo by Noadex, Atlanta, GA)

LORD OF MARRIAGE : A Nigerian Movie I recommend!

Nice movie. And an area that is yet to be explored in Nigeria.

Lots of girls who were assaulted and abused as kids never got psychological counselings and ended up living with the trauma all their lives, into adulthood. And so many other characters gets exhibited due to the pains they have had to endure all their lives.

Society looks at some of such girls who never got professional psychological counseling and label them as 'stubborn', 'head strong', 'sick', 'anti-social' etc.....not knowing that they are just crying for help.

Many end up in matrimonial homes with the pains un-exorcised and live miserable lives.

The movie brought tears to my eyes. I truly wish more movies would address such hidden ills in our society.

A must watch. Acts were realistic. They did not try to over play or downplay things. Seemed like a true-life story to me....

I recommend this movie.

Its a 'hidden' aspect of society that no one wants to address.....aftermath of rape or sexual assault on a young girl!!! I know it! I've been there, and only now, in my 30s can I talk about it openly! The stigma associated with being raped/assaulted makes lots of women keep quiet and suffer in silence!

My story is going to go public very soon anyway, but imagine when a young girl would lie to her own parents about her assailants just because she knows her parents would raise hell! And then, how would she face her mates in school afterward?!

That movie is real!! Storyline = REAL!! I felt it! Though Mma went to the extreme! Slapping guys and stabbing her sister!!! But this was a girl that NEVER received any counseling or help from when she was raped!!! She had to live with it! Even her own family didnt understand her! And I am sure that is the case with lots of young girls back home! Even those that are presently married with kids!! So many of them would take their traumatic experiences to their graves!!! While the perpetrators go scot free to unleash their beastiality on more innocent girls! Mma's was sure extreme! But I am sure that is life!

Some girls are luckier! I was. Education helped me! I was surrounded by lots of International Magazines and I soaked up on things that related to sexual assaults! Cosmo, Ebony, Reader's Digest, etc.... and read all the Dear Aunty columns I could find! I even switched my school path to read psychology so that I could learn more and treat myself!! I wanted to become a Clinical Psychologist, a Counsellor. Never mind that I am in the Fashion Arena now, I still got my eyes on young girls that are 'hiding secrets'. And I am so emotionally and passionately concerned with girls who were not as "privileged" as me to shed it off!

Its about time this aspect is brought forward and this would be done Insha Allahu soon!

Who knows the Producer of this movie? Please I need their contact info.......that movie needs to get more publicity than it presently does!! Enough of naija movies that shows people going to juju men to kill their enemies and friends!! More of movies addressing social ills and problems!!



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photo by John Harman

Estella & Madarocka in EC Designs...

EC Red Carpet Wear (African Damask, Silk and Lycra Mix)

photo by Andrew Bronfein

2009 Ad Campaign

2009 Ad Campaign




Back stage just before the runway strutting!... photo by Reward