October 29, 2009

August 10, 2009

The Meet Up So So Sewing Group

There have been some changes to this coming up meeting:
Saturday, August 15 is 2:00 p.m. (same location), not 10:00 a.m as was previously posted earlier this week on the meetup site.

So the time has been changed and also, please keep in mind to check into the website to stay posted on all you meeting times and schedules and locations. Also due to the great turn out of the meet up's you will have a special guest coming to the next meet up:

A representative of a great organization will be coming to our next meeting! To share about benefits and how we can go higher in our pursuit.

Find all this information and more and even sign up to join this great Meet up @
Email :So-So-Sewing-Club-list@meetup.com or http://www.meetup.com/So-So-Sewing-Group/ the direct website just sign up to free emails updating you on all meetings and times.

By: Geneva Relf

August 2, 2009

Just love yourself!...

A male hater who was itching from being my rejecting him emailed me that I am not pretty or beautiful....not comparable to the girl he later hitched.......and i sat down and searched out her picture and really looked at our pictures..... Like what would make a guy that mean to voice such rubbish! I know his so-called girlfriend is my age mate, if not older than me! And I really looked at both of our pictures.... I shook my head and wondered more...

Now, the other day, I met them at an event, and I looked and relooked at her again.....I could see the drooping arms, the fat belly, the stretched, taut facial skin (packed full with layers and layers of make-up), the sorry dress she wore that was not in any way flattering neither did it help her hide all the extra disproportionate layers on her sides and thighs....... and I sighed!

I almost wanted to slap myself! Because I know that before I stepped out of the house that evening, I was looking very svelte and my toned arms were looking good in my halter neck dress, which the guys were all ogling at.....even the younger boys - thinking I am their age mate

And the very possessive way my boo held me, with pride and affection and a little bit of meanness for other guys to stay away.....and I smiled!

I smiled because I have great confidence in my self, I smiled because words dont hurt me - not anymore! Not since I allowed other kids to call me 'four eyes', back in primary school because I started wearing eye glasses at 7 years. Looking like a nerd and being pampered and petted by all teachers, and being smart and always coming tops of the class made me the little girl to be picked on always! Other kids hated me! Like it was my fault I had to wear glasses or that I was always my teacher's favorite! When they played I was reading cos I didnt have friends then...I was shy and timid like that! Just me and my books!

Words dont hurt me no more, not after I started growing curves in the right places and had bought my first St. Michael's 32a bra and all the other girls started calling me 'water water yansh', or 'Super Ikebe', because I had big arse back then! (Thank God for Jlo and Beyonce for making big bum, the bomb, cos I swore to do reduction someday!) or the guys on campus singing '17, 18, 19, kpondo' , when I passed them.

yeah, in 2nd year, when the micro mini craze started on campus, and I started wearing them and started getting compliments that I have lovely legs, oh la la .....I over flaunted the legs!! Alas! Something to distract from my big bum! And the male attention?!! Whooopsieee!

Thank God for good home training, so, NO, I didnt lose my head! I didnt start clubbing or messing around! My white Cathechism Rev Fathers from childhood made sure that I grew up and lived a very (as much as I could) Holy life! No messing around with boys!! And Oh! My dad was a Biafran Soldier! Check out Igbo man with Only daughter and she being first born....can someone spell D I S C I P L I N A R I A N?

My own female friends back then (I finally realised much too late, that it was just envy and hatred) would taunt and call me all kinds of names....big arse, square forehead, have igbo women arse, look like a boy without earrings etc Oh MY WORD!

But what used to puzzle me back then (I really was naive or just had over dented self-esteem from all the bullying and name callings) was why I was the one that guys would come toasting and asking out for dates, and NOT my so-called 'pretty' friends....

Anyhoo, campus life gave me back my confidence! I learnt to walk through that long walk from the bus stop to my class at the other side of the campus with my head held high, shoulder squared, eyes dimmed, tummy tucked in, and one cute leg after the other like a super model! And yeah, I started modelling in shows and events in school then. Even contested for Ms. Vogue, and had the overall high score to clinch the crown when frat boys threw tear gas and ended the show cos their guy's girlfriend was obviously not gonna win it! Sad loss!

After that contest, words STOPPED hurting me! So, I got me self-confidence and a CAN DO attitude, NO MATTER what anyone around me says or thinks or believe! IF I TELL MYSELF I CAN DO IT, then, I REALLY CAN and I WILL, by God's Grace!

back to the dude who said his girl is more beautiful than me, I sighed again, because I know beauty is just not external, it is also internal! And I am beautiful from inside! And I am beautiful outside too! I know it and I see it, and I hear it always from good souls as well.

And why I sighed at them both is that if I really stand next to her, you would think she is 12 years older than me! She looks far older than her age, and I know I look far more younger than my age! I got good genes! If I knew how to lie, I would claim 10 years younger than my age and no one would bat an eyelid! Did I tell you guys of the dude who is 9 years younger than me tumbling all over to marry me? And wont go away!? Lol! I had to show him my ID to believe he should be calling me Aunty! lol...Nice kid he is, but I aint dating anyone that young! Nope!

I got to run off to my sewing class now, but in conclusion, I would rather look younger, pretty, and be doing great things for people around me and be remembered as a good person, than look older, mean, have bad reputation and claim I am beautiful!

Give me younger looking, natural beauty any day to older looking, cosmetics-forced beauty!

oh, this is my 15 cents!

Till next post! Toodles and have a lovely, pretty weekend and love yourself Yo!!! No one else would! You owe U that!

July 26, 2009

So So Sewing Club - ..using our talents to bless others...

Phew! I spent my whole day working on my websites! (Yeah, my Techie part reared up this weekend, and its so much fun to fiddle with programs and codes again!....thank God for my IT degree)

Anyhoo, working on couple of my websites, I got one finished! Phew! www.sososewing.com is finally up!

So So Sewing Club is a group I set up to get people to channel their creative juices and energy into creating
garments and gift items that we would give away to sick children in hospitals and also kids in shelters.

We are also giving back to the community by teaching people who have passion for sewing how to sew at no cost to them.

So far, we have had classes and we are working on our creations now.

Support us, join us, even if you dont live in the MD/VA/DC area.
You can support us by praying for us for one, and donating fabrics (especially those that have cartoons and figures and characters children love e.g. Sponge bob square pants, Power puff girls, Dora the explorer, Superman etc).

Or if you are creative too, do something and send to us and we can give to the kids for you. Attach your name and information to your item.

You can join us on facebook
And on meetup.com

This is movement! We hope you come on board! :) Join Us! :)

Email: info@sososewing.com
Tel: 1 301 915 5927
website: www.sososewing.com

Sharman instructing a beginners' sewing class

July 22, 2009

Estella Couture is more then just Fashion

We often don't hear when someone does great things now a days. The news is filled with negativity, but you rarely hear about the people who give back to their communities and that bring something positive out of there gifts and talents. Estella is no different she has a So So Sewing Group that gives back to the community. For those that love fashion and have a passion to learn can meet up with this group and learn the trade for the designer herself. this meet up was created on April 26, 2009 and has been open to those who share the passion since. So far with 79 SS sewers this meet up is growing fast and with the small cost of just $2.00 which is due the 15Th of every month is a small price to pay for all the insight you receive. However it's not just fashion and garments but also a chance to meet other people in your community. To discuss things like home decor, crafts, the fashion industry, and even other designers. It's so easy to sign up on the website and to see when the next meet up will be, and not only that but keep informed of the event to follow. A chance to meet new people and trade ideas and help each other out here is a quote for a new member “looking forward to learning the basics of sewing and being apart of a great group with a great purposeShirell Murray. She is just one of many who feel this way about this group. The next meet up is in August and they still have opening so you don't want to miss out on this class. However there is a deadline to get in this class which is July 31, 2009 so please don't procrastinate and RSVP now to ensure you seat in the group. This meet up will be Date: August 1st, 2009. Time: 2-4pm. Venue: STUDIO Gemini .10800 Rhode Island Ave, Suite E. Beltsville, MD 20705. (In the Sunrise Plaza). the two organizers of this meet up are Estella herself and her assistant is Sharman and together they are doing something amazing. Even with everything else she has on her plate sh has time to give back to her community and do good for the people who live in it. So check it out and you never know you might learn something new or be a great help to someone else the website is http://www.meetup.com/So-So-Sewing-Group/ and also don't forget to watch out for the launching her her untitled new line. you can find all of this at her website http://www.estellacouture.com/. So please support this group and sign up ans come out to experience the best design has to offer.

By: Geneva Relf

July 13, 2009

Untitled Collection Coming Soon

The very anticipated fashion line by Estella Couture is almost here so please keep your eyes open for this innovative line. Also newsletters and catalogue subscriptions are coming soon too so you'll be able to order this line that way and stay posted on what is new.

Also keep your Eyes open to see Estella and Fashions @ the following Events:

2009 (Events are subject to change, more to be listed...)
African Singles/Easter Charity Show - MD, USA
The VOGUE Project - Atlanta, GA
Nigeria Entertainment Film Festival and Awards (NEFFA)- May 2009, Nigeria
DC Fashion Week, USA
VERIZON Hispanic Support Organizatiion, New York.
Just Eve - Reality TV Show, London. July 2009
Miss Intercultural - Washington DC - July 2009
Miss Cultural Heritage - Namibia, Africa. August 2009

Also check out the Fusion Color line these are the colors of the summer and give back passion to fashion. Don't forget to follow on Twitter and stay posted as the updates come in @ http://twitter.com/EstellaCouture also don't forget to check out the facebook page as well.

By: Geneva Relf

June 30, 2009

FREE Sewing Classes in MD/DC/VA....

Hi All,
I have a new sewing Club - SO SO SEWING CLUB.

For those of you who live in the DC Metro areas, come join us.

Sewing classes are free, all we ask of you is that you create at least, one project (shirt, skirt, blouse, dress, doll, etc) that would be donated to a sick child in a hospital, a woman in need, an elderly etc.

Use your talent and creativity to bless someone else! We are here on facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pa

You can join us on meetup.com - http://www.meetup.com/So-So-Sewing-Group/

Our website: www.sososewing.com is secured and ready to be created. (Web designer needed)

Let us sew and soar into blessing others!

June 4, 2009

Caring Is Important

The NR Awards are here and Estella Couture are up for an award. In the category for Fashion Designer of the year. I can see why she has been nominated and why she deserves to win as well. Estella Couture is the picture perfect line and I feel that it represents the Nigerian African culture. This is a huge honor so make your vote count please register on the website and vote for Estella. Here new line for 2009 is untitled but that's because words can't compare to how great this line is. How Amazing these colors are and how blessed of a gift she has for fashion. The Awards are in Houston and please help out the worthy cause that is associated with these awards.This is an organization that is helping to end the poverty in Nigeria, and promote awareness on the health conditions of the Nigerian people.

This organization helps do just that by shedding light and recognizing those of great talent. There are many categories but we want to focus on Fashion Designer Of The Year. This again is a great honor and Estella is very proud and we should be of her too. So vote and please donate this is something we should all be concerned with and now is the time to show how much we really care. They have a goal set for the money they would like to raise to help support their cause but we can pass that goal. However we have to do it together and so let's pull together.

I know your thinking how is this my problem and why should I care. Just think about your children and the future that could be changed for them. What if you didn't have money to feed them and clothing to cover them? What if you couldn't work and your health was beyond failure wouldn't you want someone to care? Now imagine a country that is consumed with these problems everyday. Where food is low and health is a major concern and the children who are the future of this country need a chance and we can give them that. So care and give and remember that anything can change in this country and that nothing is to far from our front door.

By: Geneva Relf


The NR Awards

The NR Awards are here and Estella Couture are up for an award. In the category for Fashion Designer of the year. I can see why she has been nominated and why she deserves to win as well. Estella Couture is the picture perfect line and I feel that it represents the Nigerian African culture. This is a huge honor so make your vote count please register on the website and vote for Estella. Here new line for 2009 is untitled but that's because words can't compare to how great this line is. How Amazing these colors are and how blessed of a gift she has for fashion. The Awards are in Houston and please help out the worthy cause that is associated with these awards.

This is an organization that is helping to end the poverty in Nigeria, and promote awareness on the health conditions of the Nigerian people. This organization helps do just that by shedding light and recognizing those of great talent. There are many categories but we want to focus on Fashion Designer Of The Year. This again is a great honor and Estella is very proud and we should be of her too. So vote and please donate this is something we should all be concerned with and now is the time to show how much we really care. They have a goal set for the money they would like to raise to help support their cause but we can pass that goal. However we have to do it together and so let's pull together.

I know your thinking how is this my problem and why should I care. Just think about your children and the future that could be changed for them. What if you didn't have money to feed them and clothing to cover them? What if you couldn't work and your health was beyond failure wouldn't you want someone to care? Now imagine a country that is consumed with these problems everyday. Where food is low and health is a major concern and the children who are the future of this country need a chance and we can give them that. So care and give and remember that anything can change in this country and that nothing is to far from our front door.

By: Geneva Relf



June 1, 2009

2009 fashion must

This Summer Trends
No matter where you live summer is the time to flaunt your stuff. It's swimsuit season and light fabric wearing time. This summer your best friend is sunblock no matter what race you are you must wear sunblock and protect your skin. You also want to keep water with you at all times to stay hydrated. No point in looking great if you just look tired and dehydrated. Also find the swimsuit that fit your body type and style don't go for trends but comfort and fit your the one that has to wear it so make it flattering to the shape you have. Also a must this summer are sunglasses and hats. Wearing your best shades to keep the sun out of your eyes and to keep you looking cool all summer long. Also handbags are a must ladies you want you bag to have many uses this summer not just for storing your things but you want it to make a fashion statement as well and stand out too.

Also keep it fresh this summer with body mist sprays and deodorant being in the hot sun can make you sticky and sweaty so keep baby wipes. They'll keep you cool and refreshed. Also no harm in taking it light with the makeup this summer you would hate to ruin it, and have it running down your face. So use long-lasting makeup you'll have fewer touch ups and less mess on your hands. Also keep the hair simple ladies you want to keep it simple and flexible pending on the plans you make occur during the day.Sandals are making a comeback just in time because you'll want something light on your feet while running your errands. There are many styles to fit your needs and personality so take advantage of the sales going on this summer.

Also that means pedicures ladies if your going to have the toes exposed your going to need to keep them looking nice and clean. Jewelery is a must this summer on bold piece instead of many. A bracelet or a necklace will set the tone for any outfit. Remember less is more and this summer you don't want to be weighed down so keep it light, and keep it safe. Drink plenty of water and use that sunblock. Also don't forget to get that perfect outfit from Estella Couture this summer. Have anything customized to make you stand out this summer and be the talk of the city.

By: Geneva Relf

May 20, 2009

How Estella Couture Is different

Launching her 2009 collection this line is by far is the best of yet to come. She is really using color and pattern to give her fashion life and inspiration. She a many different types of styles for all your needs. from that ethnic bride to that fashionista that just want to flaunt her flare. Estella Couture has it all and you don't want to miss this 2009 untitled collection. However keep your eye out for future fashion shows work of Estella. She has been recognized for her work and has received award for her accomplishments. You don't want to miss the sale going on now with 25% off this seasons deal, and you'll be beyond satisfied with you fashion choices. Yes you can shop online and yes you will love what you see. Don't worry if you need that special outfit customized don't hesitate to make an appointment to do so. And you can have your own custom made dress, suite, gown whatever your needs. Don't worry there is also a form online for you to fill out and put your measurements in and tell Estella what you really want. With plenty to look out for you can't miss her or this line. Upcoming Events to look out for:

African Singles Events - Vienna, VA - April 11th, 2009
Compassion For Fashion - Fashion Show, Baltimore, MD - April 5th, 2009
The VOGUE Project - Atlanta, GA - April 2009 (date will be posted soon)
Nigeria Entertainment Film Festival and Awards - May 2009
International Style Week, Nigeria, Africa - July 3rd 2009
Miss Intercultural - Washington DC - July 18th 2009
Miss Cultural Heritage - Namibia, Africa. August 2009
(all events subject to change)

But you need to keep your eyes out for the launch of the new 2009 collection and don't forget to check out the website. http://www.estellacouture.com/site.html

By: Geneva Relf

April 8, 2009

Designers DIssing Michelle Obama! WHY?!

I have asked myself several times what the fuss is about what our lovely First Lady, Michelle Obama is wearing and I still dont get it!

Ok, no one is talking about her underwears as well? 
is it Victoria Secret or made by an unknown designer?

Why are they picking on this Harvard graduate who is Beauty, Brain and Brawn! Rather, it is the size and color of her bow that the press is going gaga over!

She wore a Talbot Dress on ESSENCE cover is also a headline! So what? 

We are in recession and she WALKING THE WALK, and NOT JUST TALKING THE TALk! Because even before she became a First lady, she was very rich already. So, she can very well afford all the bling bling, big designer names!
She is setting a good example that people should be economical to survive this economic turbulence. If a First lady can be 'inexpensively' glamorous', what excuse does the clerk that earns $200) a month have for charging a $1000 dress to her credit card? huh?

I particularly think the bow on her dress is unique and cute, why people are frotting at the mouth because of this smells simply of 'hatorade'! Simple.

Can people get over what colors her shows are or how big her bows are etc? Why are people so critical of everything she wears? if Beyonce or Sarah Jessica Parker wore same, would she be subjected to all these scrutiny? I am a fashion designer/Fashion consultant and I can authoritatively say that Michelle Obama dresses well. Like Coco Chanel said, Fashion recycles, nothing is new in fashion....that is why we have clothes we call 'vintage', 'classic' etc, and all fashion is a cut off from something in the past. Please, folks, give this lady a break! There is more to her than what she wears daily!

Why have they reduced our elegant First lady to another contestant on American Next Top Model -World Stage?

And why is Oscar dela Renta making all the fuss? Who made him god of Fashion? \hasnt his label made enough money?

So, he doesnt want the Jason Wus and the ESTELLA Coutures to have a chance of making it too? PLEASE!!!

Anyway, anyone who knows the contact/link to send a dress to Elegant First lady Michelle Obama, should please call me: 1 301 915 5927. Or email me: estella@estellacouture.com ...I will like to dress Mrs Obama. I am from Africa, and so far, she has not worn an African Designer's wear....checl my collection out, I dress for figures like hers and I WILL give them something to talk about when Mrs Obama steps out in an ESTELLA Couture design. Yay.

All already faamous designer should please massage their egos and give us a chance. besides, the sky is big enough for all birds to fly without clipping their wings!

Besides, they still got Hollywood celebrities wearing them on the Red Carpets!

Yes, I have a dress for Mrs Michelle Obama. ;)

March 26, 2009

'My Brand New Man'.

'My Brand New Man'..... you wanna hear about 'him'?  

Hol' up!!!! I didn't say this, a friend said it! She said she can ONLY marry a 'Brand New man'! And when I asked her what she meant, hear her: "Her Brand New Man has to have these qualities: 
  • Never been married 
  • Has no 'baby mama' drama 
  • No girl-friend or Ex still hanging on"  
Ok, every babe wants all those, but my take on this is that when a babe crosses age 30, come on, ya shopping list for a man got to drop some qualities! Haba! 

Given, as a teenager, Barbara Cartland and Mills & Boons told us that Mr Right was ALWAYS perfect! {Chiseled muscular body, tall, handsome, always clean shaven, smells musky all the time, dark, with hairy chest, gentlemanly with a baritone husky, sexy voice to match!} 

Ooops! Did I forget that he has to be able to fly you both to a romantic remote island for seafood diner? Or be able to take the yatch out on the weekend while you cruise and sip wine and look dreamily into each other's eyes ......awwwwwwww. BOING!!!!!!!!!!!! WAKE UP!!! STOP DROOLING!!! Those were fictions!!! Ok, on rare occasion, such men may exist 1 out of 1,000,000! ? Right?  

  • When you meet a guy that is tall and handsome, [not necessarily dark], chances are, he is full of himself and believes he is all that and will have a nasty attitude and be a playa!! Hello!  
  • When you meet one that is gentlemanly and nice and smells husky, blah blah blah, he may just be gay! Or bi-sexual! Eeewww!  
  • When you meet one that is clean-shaven, well dressed, handsome blah blah blah, he may just be a lazy azz looking for a babe to leech unto!!  
  • And oh, you meet one that is not married, they just may have 6 kids from 4 different women!! Spread across 3 continents! And you wonder what ever happened to abstinence, or if you must, safe sex, like condom!!!!!! 
And oh! They are the ones that would take offense if they meet a responsible gurl that insists they take an AIDS test before dating them!  

Where was I? Oh! About the Brand New Man, right? Yeah! So, I just wondered why a gurl of over 30 years would be looking for a brand new man!! Chances are that if a babe is in her mid or late 30s, guys that are older than her would most likely have been married or been involved in a relationship before etc....and could have a child(ren)......and why would a man be up to say....40 years and NEVER been married?!!!! With all the single fine sisters out there? Was he living a playa life?! ?? ? ? something must be wrong somewhere!  

Sure, there are single, never-been-hooked guys out there, hey! I am looking for those too! But in the same vein, I will not sit put and say that a man has to be BRAND NEW! Nope! A lot of people made mistakes in their choices of relationships in their pasts and should not be made to die lonely cos of that. 

Everyone deserves a second chance! And its worse for people who live in the Diaspora who have had to marry who they just see or i some extreme cases, for what we call 'kpali' marriage, they are a myriad of, more especially, the number of immigrants of same nationality and race is limited in any particular geographic region. So, a married couple of today may not actually be married to their Mr/Ms Right!  Because lots of people have gotten married for the 'wrongest' reasons!

A friend of mine from back in Jos just called me this past weekend to say she is divorced! I was aghast! First off, she was the last person I expected to have married at 22 years!! Straight out of school!!!! They won the Visa lottery, came to USA, now five years later, and 2 kids later, they are divorced!!! Thus ended a 10-year marriage!!!  

Another friend is on the verge of filing a divorce, and just barely holding on, and I tell him to stay in it! At least for their children's sake! Makes me ask, what is it with marriages formed in Nigeria packing up here so fast?!  

Ok, so, now, why would there not be second-hand men and women out there in droves?! So, for the sister looking for a Brand New Man, isnt she just reducing her own list of potentials?! Hmmmmmmmm........................  

By the way, what qualifies a gurl to say she is "brand New"? Just because she has never been married? And has no kid? How about those that had abortions, if those kids had not been killed before they saw life, then such gurls would be single parents too!  

What I am saying is this: Ladies, please reduce the restrictions you put on yourselves! Give a man with a child(ren) a chance! Sure, every woman would want to share their first child-birth experience with a man who has had no other child before, that would be a lovely shared process as first-timers, but consider the children of a man with a child already who also needs someone to nurture, love and make them feel happy and alive. 

We all know that the children are usually the more hurt victims from divorces or separation or even death of a parent! Thus, such a child(ren) would do better in life with a mother-figure as well.  

And look at it like you are getting a ready-made family.....husband and children! DONT see the man's children as a hindrance or 'baggage'!!!! Children are gifts from above!  

As for me, I have no qualms with being a Step mother! Dang! I was almost one a little while back, but it didnt work out! I had already started to feel like a mother with two lovely kids already! And would I still want to be a step mother? Yes!!! But I can do without a baby mama drama for real!!!! Am I crazy to want to do this? No! I love children and I will still adopt kids and set up a motherless babies home someday as God blesses me!.  

Wouldnt I want to have a Brand New Man as well? You bet! I would, but will not restrict myself either!  

By the way, did I mention that my friend who said she wanted a 'brand New man' happens to be 34, and looks like she is 45, and does that have that 'wow' figure or looks. I am sorry, I am not dissing her, just that she looks like Plain Jane, and she dares to say ONLY a 'Brand New Man' would be fit to take her to the altar....  
Ok, please correct me if I am wrong here: I believe in Asking God specifically and getting our wishes, but, are we supposed to restrict our 'asking' for a man to just a 'Single-never-been-married' man? How about if he is just the so-called, elusive 'Mr. Right' who God is reconnecting the lady to, because she truly asked? So, what if he is a widower, a divorcee, single parent, etc?  

Choose well ladies, at the end of the day, what matters is your happiness, and if the man is the only one assigned to make you happy in life, then, carve extra love for the kids as well and LIVE HAPPY!!!!! Yippppeeeeeeeeee!  

GOOD NEWS: There are exceptions to the rules though! A God-fearing man!! God fearing man I said!! One that TRULY and honestly fears God! Which explains why some girls have been accused of running to the church when they are too old and almost given up on hope looking for a born-again man. But to that I say, the babe better be born-again for real, and then we can all say Halleluyah that a man brought her to the Kingdom of God! 

Those that run to church pretending to be holy just to ensnare an unsuspecting brother end up being exposed anyway! Same applies to men as well who run to church to catch born-again wives (I will talk about that someday) getting back to the topic at hand, why do women think that because a brother is holy and born again means they have to turn Jezebels in the house and run their mouths like razor, and want to drag a holy brother down?! Why? (topic for another day too). But I will say "SHAME ON YOU" that go to church just to hook a man!  

Seek God for real and a man would be added to you if that is what you ask God for. And when God gives a woman a husband, everyone that looks at her would see a very happy woman!!! But when a woman ensnares, tricks, traps or seduces a man to herself without seeking God's face first, then you hear of woes and they make you see marriage like its hell, when it should actually be a happy union. 

And to all the babes looking for Brand New Man, with all the Mr. Right qualities, please can you you give me the 1 -800 number of the factory where such men are manufactured because I have a long list I want custom-made into a man, as my husband. Hee hee hee

March 20, 2009

What is LOVE?

The ONLY true love I know is Romeo and Juliet, and they died! So there fore, love is dangerous, foolish and stupid! {sue Me! :}

So, I rather follow my head than my heart o! Cos when you follow ya head, you can be rational and not be a 'Fool in love'. Romeo and Juliet are dead!

I prefer the love that grows, when the woman has developed extra skin for waist, wrinkles at the eyes, the man's waist has turned from 6-pack to Keg! And they can look at each other and see each other's souls and know that their hearts beat alike. They have gone through thick and thin and survived it all. They have reached the point of "Woman, who would marry you with all ya sagging breast?" and "Man, which other woman on this earth would have my kinda patience to manage you all these years?" - now, that is love! It has gone beyond she has good arse and he has muscles to, I just love her, wrinkles, menopause and all.......

Ok, how do people get to that point? Listen: It is first and foremost, by not deceiving themselves that they are IN LOVE! (which is lust most times anyway).....and MOST IMPORTANTLY, simply by two people coming together and deciding that each brings something to the table and that they are going to try all their possible best to make their marriage work! They would both never stay angry at the same time! They both know that the contract says 'till death do us part'...and they will keep it because they both see SOMETHING IN THE OTHER they want to keep!

Maybe, the man is fine! Good character or has money or fame! And the woman may have good manners, has potential to make a good home, can cook, has a career, and maybe fine (so the guy can brag to his pals)...so, no matter what, they both see ''something' in the other, and not claim 'love'..

what is love, by the way? 

And yes, I am still getting married in a Chapel in Las Vegas, doing tha thing before I change my mind - again! And yes again, marriage should be treated like a contract! Cos most people work a contract and adhere to the terms than they adhere to their marriage vows! So, one business marriage contract coming up! 
I have a Mega Crush on...

 YOU REALLY think I would say his name here?!!

 (as if I be mumu)

No worry, na part of my plan for ma next trip to naija! If I no drag this Nollywood handsome, cute dude down the Aisle, my name no be Estella! Damn!!! The bobo just dey!!! gentleman to the core! But.....I have not told him I am crazy about him like dat sha O! I have allowed him to be doing the toastings.....while I act like I no really care (you know how women do 

but the yawa now be say him get one babe wey just attach like superglue to MY bobo....shuo! na scandal I dey go rock for naija O!!! I WANT THAT GUY!!! He is just FINE!! 
Woh! I see a scandal coming up! get your popcorns out!
 Yes, I said it: I am going to scatter that their fake relationship and take over! nah! She ain't got nothing on me ....so? She is younger than me, so what? Real men prefer more matured women these days anyway. Abegi!

Make una cheer me up keh! Where my people eh! Estella is finally in 'Love', and will get her man BY FORCE! Scandal or no scandal, LOVE RULES!

PICTURE THIS: Estella Walking down the Aisle in her EC designed wedding gown with the much celebrated Nollywood, Handsome, muscular, fine, rich actor by her side......haba, the picture go fine keh! Wetin una think!?

All is fair in love and war abi? OK, na WAR I dey pursue now! Operation, Catch ma Celeb Hubby! 
 Dat way too, una no go get nothing to yab my wedding pictures about! hee hee hee

Where all ma prayer warriors at?

March 19, 2009

About time I take my blogging serious, huh?

How dy? Everyone.....

I will start blogging more seriously next week!

Stay tuned. ;-)

March 16, 2009

I want to be a household name –Estella Couture boss

By Ijeoma Ogwuegbu

Estella Ogbonna is creative director of Estella Couture LLC, a US-based fashion house with a Nigerian slant to its designs. Since 2005, when the company started officially sending out runway collections, it has been growing from strength to strength. The Nigerian slant to its designs is not far fetched, as the name behind the business suggests it is owned by a Nigerian. But it was a dream that almost did not happen.  

“I have been designing since I was about 6 years old,” Ogbonna, company’s CEO said recently in a chat with Daily Sun. “I still remember the tiny little skirt I made back then with needle and thread and subsequently, all the papers I doodled designs and styles on over the years.  

But it was a talent I never developed, because I was chasing the academic world and bagging degrees and diplomas all over the place because of the family expectation to be ‘educated’.” Eventually, the talent would not be ignored and she started ESTELLA Couture (EC) as a business in 2005.  

“That was actually when I started sewing with a sewing machine, and cutting styles. I have lost count of the number of runways shows I’ve been on since I started. I used to keep a record of it, but it became overwhelming, so, I stopped counting. But runways shows have taken me across continents.”  

Like any new business, Estella says her business has faced many challenges. But she believes she has a special relationship that has helped her.  

“I did not plan to start EC, I quit my regular job on a cool Wednesday lunchtime because I knew I just had to, I knew it was time to channel a new course for my life, and with Total Faith in God, I stepped out and have not looked back since then. And God sees me through all my challenges.” Despite the challenges, she says she is very happy at having left the corporate world to go with her dreams.  

“Confucius said “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” I am doing a job I love, and I am simply having fun everyday. Apart from the satisfaction of making people look good in my designs, I am on track for my life’s goal, which is creating an avenue to be a blessing to widows through economic Empowerment, teaching them sewing skills and using the benefit to sustain their children.”  

The next step for her, she says, is to bring her brand to Nigeria. “I was in Nigeria for most of 2008, to survey the industry and how I can be part of it, seeing that I started my business in USA. It is quite different there. And I am now very ready to return back there and launch my designs at home. The future for me can be put in just one sentence. Become a household name.”  

There are many things, she says, which keep her going and one of them is the effect her clothes have on wearers.  

“To me, it is knowing that wearing my clothes can change the mood of a woman. Transforming a woman with low confidence into a very confident, elegant woman is very satisfying. And knowing and appreciating God for blessing me with the ability to convert a fabric into a gown, using my creativity gives a good feeling. And of course, the glamour that comes with it is not bad. 

I will definitely say my inspiration comes from God because I have had times I made dresses without even sketching a style. Just cutting and sewing straight from the heart and looking at the finished dress later and wondering where it came from. Nice patterns on fabrics get my creative juices flowing. I also look at my environment and create from it.” Link: Sun News

Facebook Chat 'Toasting'...

Some men actually wake up at very odd hours sometimes to 'toast' on facebook!

I have seen all kinds of toasting chats and at a point, I had started answering them rudely (which is bad sha), and almost lost a potential contact one day because she sent me a fb chat asking me 'are you going to be at ** fashion week? See you there', and I replied back? 'What for?'...... only for me to get there and this lady kept boning at me, and when I eventually went and said Hello, she reminded me that I had asked her 'what for?' rudely two days back! Wow! But, like I told her, she did not introduce herself or use her real name in her chat...

So, how can one avoid not being irritated and annoyed by some of these chats sometimes?

People think that just because you are Online in the Chat corner, they should say 'Hi' and expect a chat response! Even those that DONT know youm but for some reason have ended up on your 'Friend's list"...

See a chat that just popped up this morning, meanwhile its that time of the month for me, so, I am not in a good mood......but I am supposed to be 'social' and polite, huh?

7:59am Joseph :hello
7:59am Estella: .Hello.
7:59am Joseph :Goodmorning
7:59am Estella : U leave me texts/chat all the time. How are you? what can I do for you?
8:00am Joseph: pls can i know u?
8:00am Estella: how?
8:01am Joseph: ie , asl
8:01am Estella: ???
8:01am Joseph: age, location and etc
8:01am Estella: why?
8:02am Joseph: want s to be friend ie two of ue
8:03am Estella:  sorry, am not interested. am here on facebook for business.....not to make 'friends' like that.
8:03am Joseph: ok. what type of business are u looking 4
8:04am Estella: maybe, you should have read my profile first before chatting me up!
U just chatting a name you know nothing about?
8:06am Joseph: maybe from no were, to some were

And how can I be in facebok and be OFFLINE all the time,  when that is my easiest and fastest way of communicating with my contacts outside USA (saves on phone cards/bills).... ;)

There are people who just somehow end of up as my 'friends' and I have no idea who the heck they are, but because my facebook is set up for business, I confirm people a lot, as per any could be potential business....but when you have like 130 people Online and like 20 of them are sending you 'Hi's and 'Hello's at the same time, what do you do?! Some have graduated to sending emails, and my facebook emails are configured to pop up as texts on my cell phone (thank God I have Unlimited Texts plan).....u just see texts on my cell phone and half are from people just writing absolutely nothing!

One sends me a text one day, actually a female: 'I want to model for you'.....I was in a good mood that day....so, I write her back...."maybe salutation could have started your email, followed by who you are and your size and stuff like that. Seeing you are just writing for just writing sake, I am sorry we have no room for you'....she writes back that she is sorry, blah blah blah....

M-e-n, I dey see things for facebook O! Especially the chat section! 

Someone HELP!!!

March 12, 2009

Princess Estella....my hidden Title...

Someone called me 'Princess' the other day and I told him not to ever call me that again, but stick to my govt name - Estella.  

He didnt understand........and I was not in the mood to explain why I do not like being called 'Adaeze' or 'Princess'....  

Maybe I am wrong, but I see that title as one that would take away from who I am as E. I dont want anyone relating to me because of what my father is: (His Royal Highness (HRH) Eze ** Ogbonna)(equivalent to the KING of my place, though my tribe - (Igbos) do not officially use 'king' as title, but use 'Eze'

.....I am simply, Daddy's daughter. Besides, considering the crazy folks who are eying his throne there, I would rather have him simply as daddy, and not HRH! Ok, his role in the State govt level by virtue of his position does open doors I confess....but, I rather be Estella. because then, too much attention is put on me as 'Princess'.... And that is when I keep hearing from people stuff like...'Adaeze cannot do this!, Adaeze cannot do that! blah blah blah! 

I remember my ex-fiance sweating when I told him that the cost of my traditional marriage was not going to be the 'norm' per se :lol (Nah, that is not why we packed it up!:D) I deliberately scared him sha....cos he was all mouth....too much money shacking his Igbo big head! I told him how all the HRHs would be given invitation cards, how the govt house people would also be in attendance, and how even the women (Umu Ada or whatever they are called) from both my mum's village and my dad's place would expect BIG parties for Adaeze (Princess), how lots of dignitaries would attend not because of me, but because of my father's position...and coupled with the fact that I am the first child and only daughter, who has been running away from marriage all these while, that they would want to really celebrate! happy to send me away from home!! lol...As I know that the village would be agog for days!  

Those people look for any reason to come to the palace to sit and eat!!! Dang! My immediate younger brother's wedding was a festival! lasted for 3 days of eating, cooking, dancing, and of course, the youths getting drunk! When we calculated the estimate of what it would cost for my traditional wedding alone, he muttered silently...that he would beg my dad to intervene and allow us do something small and quiet. OK, daddy? Igbo man! His one and ONLY daughter getting married and in a quiet way? Hmmm...I told ex that he should not worry, daddy would spend his own money to meet up to the 'standard'...  

So, that is one of the reasons I dont say I am a Princess! And moreso, if I start using that title publicly, and mentioning it in interviews, then, I would have to say what my father's name is, and where I am from and all that.....- which would ultimately lead to exposing my family, my private life etc. NO! I dont want to do that to my family- Invade their privacy. Being the reason why no one would see me linking my parents, siblings picture anywhere near my name or business! 

Sure, sometimes, I want to show off my dad's picture to some of my friends and colleagues here in his full Royal Regalia, but I hold myself back! Daddy is a handsome man, I must say, and only place I got his picture is on my table, in private. Only place I got mum's is on my wall and on my hard drive. Only place I got my brother's pic with his wife and his cute daughter who everyone swore looked like me when she was born is on my hard drive! 

And dang! That little girl looks like me! I put her picture at 4 months side-by-side with mine when I was 4 months old too, and the only thing that differentiated us was that my picture paper is old and frayed at the edges! My brother told me that when they handed him the girl, he was like, 'hah, this is Ijeoma (my middle name) here!'....and I asked my mum if that was said with happiness or annoyance....no one told me! (I guess, I will never know rolleye:)...Like, is bro T happy he got a daughter that is fine :D like me, or sad that another 'trouble' (me) has entered his house?! LOL...who cares? That is his beeswax lol.

But m-e-n, that little girl - K, started doing everything 4 months before she should...(that's ma girl!!) I took a pic with her and she looks like my daughter! (Awwww....made me so much want to have a daughter ASAP!!!) I told her mum that I will take her back to US with me as per the similarity is too much. Blood no dey lie! But why does she look like me, T (my brother) and I dont look alike! - Not to me sha O! I went to the hair salon with her and her mum in Lagos and the peeps there tot she is my daughter and that her mum is my friend 'escorting us' lol!  

Sometimes, I wanna blog and post pictures of my family, but i dont know why in as much as I love to talk about everything else, this is actually the first time I am talking about my family....About Ugo Eze, Lolo (My dear mommy), the Princes (T and C), and the little Princess - K, and the The King Himself - Daddy! Funny it is, when sometimes if I walked into a meeting in the Palace lounge, I had to greet my Dad as 'Eze', and not as daddy.... (especially if I was wearing one of my 'American garbs - like tank top and shorts! or dresses for heat...LOL)...before they say 'Eze pickin spoil from America! lol) not minding that it was dang hot there! Anyhoo.....I am Estella, and I dont like to be called Adaeze or Princess.....

I have worked for my own identity and will keep it that way. And in future too, I shall protect the one I marry from public view. because being in the public eyes, opens you up for lots of crap! And it shall remain that way. let me shoulder and handle the craps that comes with the terrain - alone! Thinking about it, I wonder if I would even post my wedding pictures in public.....I think not. I may post just pictures with just me, no groom, no family...nothing.  

My profession demands being social and in the public's eyes, but my personality demands cuddling up by the fireplace, watching a movie or simply resting or playing a computer game with a slow Christian song playing in the background....living a simple, quiet life. Or out somewhere helping someone in need. In as little thing as helping with washing dishes, to cleaning, shopping, or just being a shoulder to lean on. That is really me - Estella....the one that no one knows. The one that is hidden behind my bravadoes and my 'tough chick' external demeanor, the one I thrive so hard not to let people see....just only a few people!....That is Estella....not a princess, just a regular Jane.

March 7, 2009

My facebook Fashion/Picture time line and mannequins and constructions and....

Just pictures of clothes I am making.....while under construction....from start to finish....

On mannequins, on the table, at the sewing machine...and on clients when they come to pick up....

For privacy reasons, I will show some of the dresses that clients are wearing without their identity showing, unless they give me permission to do so..... and sometimes, when they come to pick-up, they may not have make-up on ;)....so, you gat to understand that!!! lol

before a cute model wears it on the runway or photo shoot and give it that final 'THE LOOK!' ;)

Location: Work Zones!

Just enjoy the pictures here. ;)

March 3, 2009

Just Sewing.....Part I

I get asked, "How can I sew?", "Would you teach me?" etc....so, I have compiled (thanks to Youtube).

Sewing Machine Magic

Stitching the Sewing Patterns

Start Sewing- Marking and Cutting the Fabric

How to sew on a Button -- Basic Sewing Skills

more links here:

I will be posting more later......have a great sewing time! ;)


February 16, 2009

New York Fashion Week: Academy of Arts University Show

I won the ticket to the Academy of Art University Fashion Show at New York  Fashion Week, courtesy of Ladybrille

I arrived at NY just as the show was about to start...(there was crazy traffic that Friday)....
         Just Me, at the Tent.

Anyway, I got there, had an awesome time for real. Sitting 2nd row at the largest tent in Bryant park is FUN! (note the capitalization!).....

Ms. J (of American Next Top Model) and I.

I had wanted to pop into the African Arise Collection, but, first, I was kinda late for that one, and when I looked up at the monitor and saw one designer's collection coming down the runway, I was hugely disappointed! because I expected more! (Don't ask me who!)
So, I just went back to the Academy of Arts University show to have me a good time and I sure did!

Just some pics at the event.

What intrigued me most was just the way all the paparrazzis would all raise their hands at the same time as soon as the model started on the catwalk and the way they would all click at the same time and drop their cameras at the same time, that was a lovely sight to behold and the sounds of the clicks were music to my ears...
OK, enuff talk, just see the pics and videos...I will discuss more about this trip on my blog -http://www.couturestelle.blogspot.com
Am Blessed. Yes, 4 Real!
Location: Bryant Park, NY

My most fun part, = watching the camera men clicking in unison as the models came down the catwalk.
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My YouTube





just out from church...

just out from church...
Estella,Adaeze, Madarocka

Fashion Teen Idol Show in DC

EC Fashion shows...

EC Fashion shows...
Estella backstage with models @ Couture Fashion Week NY.....

Models @ Zanzibar

Models @ Zanzibar
Backstage getting ready for the runway.......... photo by John Harman

Tradishionale... (Ms. Estella) in Aso-oke and raw silk dress..........

photo by John Harman

Estella & Madarocka in EC Designs...

EC Red Carpet Wear (African Damask, Silk and Lycra Mix)

photo by Andrew Bronfein

2009 Ad Campaign

2009 Ad Campaign




Back stage just before the runway strutting!... photo by Reward